I recently had a very emotionally intense encounter, and I feel so guilty

[TheDevilWearsPrimark]

It was incredible, and stirred feelings in me that I haven't experienced for a long long time.
I have a very happy relationship and a beautiful family and would never ever betray them, but I feel guilty that this short encounter has affected me so much.

Was it good?

What exactly do you mean?!

Yes, how does one define an emotionally intense 'encounter'?

but
if it makes you glad for what you have..?...

and if you've not done ought foolish....

..was it good?..

What happened?

For some reason the first half of my message didn't post. Sorry for being unintentionally cryptic!

I went out on Friday with some friends, for dinner and to a club. We had an amazing night and I got properly dressed up and pampered beforehand, which so rarely happens.

They all got the night bus home and I was waiting in the taxi queue and decided to go buy some water. As I was crossing trafalgar square the most devestatingly gorgeous guy caught my eye. Chiseled cheekbones, a short tight corkscrew afro, amazing huge eyes etc etc. We exchanged look. Then as I left the shop and walked back he was sitting on a bench and called me over. I couldn't resist, and we shared a 'naughty cigarette' and just immediatly started chatting about really intense things. He is a music student at my old university.
He then got his guitar out and sang an acoustic verion of 'band of gold' and 'be my baby' ( I am a huge motown fan). I was almost reduced to tears it was so amazing, and a little cliched, with all the fountains and amazing buildings around us. I talked to him about my family life and he talked to me about his girlfriend.
It was like electricity and just got too much. I had to suddenly get up and jump into a taxi.

I really can't stop thinking about it and smiling, but feel awful for it.

Oh, NOTHING to feel guilty about!

If anything, why not indulge in some harmless fantasizing?

I have a very active imagination and as long as it stays entirely imaginary, why not?

You didn't really do anything wrong to be guilty about. At the end of the day you were only passing time waiting for your taxi, and making polite conversation.

I cannot put into words how deeply it has affected me.
It is something I feel I ought to let DP know about, but I'm not sure that is a good idea.

nooooo don't tell dp. It will only hurt him and make him worry that you are restless. You did nothing wrong. Leave it in your imagination

oh god - that is wonderful - we don't have to give up having amazing experiences just because we are married.

I have times like this and tell dh - they are not run off into the sun type things but wonderful moments

ellis65. It wasn't just that at all. You know that lightening bolt you hear about? This was it, and I've never had it before and never even believed it before. And it was mutual.

don't tell dp if you feel he will be upset of worried

No reason to tell your dh about it - you didn't even touch the guy! It just sounds like an amazing experience that you can keep with you forever! Wow!

You've done nothing wrong.

I'm sure that sometimes you shed a tear at the cinema.

You had a real life experience that was a bit like the kind of emotional experience one can have at the cinema. That's all right - in fact, lucky you.

But keep it to yourself.

you will never see him again.

my guess is you were drinking

my guess is you were on a high

my guess is he fed that - he showed you a time in your life that had gone but was enjoyable

That was some good stuff you shared for sure!!

Lol should have known you'd blame it on me being wasted.
But I wasn't at all, I had a couple of glasses of wine.
And I regularly 'smoke' and it doesn't affect me all that much.
Why the cycnicism?

I don't think it's cycnicism - I think it's people trying to stop you beating yourself up over a moment. It was a one off, you were attracted to him, it was all part of a great night, you were on ahigh, natural and chemical and don't fret over it.

I've been out on clubs and had a moment with many a beautiful man. i love dancing and when i see a guy that dances well we alwasy end up sharing a moment or 3 on the dance floor. mOst of the time DP is DJing or just behind me!

I've been out to clubs without Dpa nd spent the whole night in the company of 1 man on several occaision. Have felt really attracted to them, loved dancign with them, sharing great smiles etc and then gone home to my DP who I'm in love with, with a smile on my face. I'm sue he's done the same. Where's the harm?

I agree, TC.

Life is too short to feel guilt over what is basically nothing done wrong!

Why not just enjoy the memory?

I agree with ChipKid

All it was was a lovely monent on top of a lovely evening.

It's a shame it doesm't happen more for you or you wouldn't be making such a biug deal out oif it, and I don't mean that in a mean way.

Just love the memory and carry that smile round in your belly for months and months, if not ever, and go out thee and collect more memories like that!

I'm glad you had a great night out, but try not to work yourself up too much about this encounter.

The guy you met is just a guy, he leaves his underwear on the floor, farts at dinnertime, ignores and chores and smells just as much as any other guy. Try not to make it something it is not, enjoy it for what it was and move on.