Hi all. Just wanted some advice as really not sure what to do next for the best
I've in my mid forties and have been with my husband since my late teens. We've always had an honest relationship and never ever had any issues regarding other men/women. Until now. Before I start let me just say any issues on my part are to do with my husband, not so much the neighbour. I'm pretty mad at him right now.
Basically it all started when he got talking to a neighbour, too many texts went back and forth between them, more than what I was comfortable with, so he promised he would calm them down and the friendship too. Ok all good so far as I know he did calm the texts right down, but then he starts going in her house. Even once with our kids at about midnight!! Now to cut a long story short otherwise I'll be here all day, I have said to him on 3 separate occasions that whilst I don't mind them talking (I'm not jealous by nature and I do trust him) I don't want him going in her house as far as I am concerned he has no need to. He promised yet each time he has broken that promise and it's got to the point now where I feel uncomfortable living in my own home. I just want to go (there is a lot more to the story but as I said I'd be here all day) and get a horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach every evening I return home from work.
So anyway last week we have a long phone conversation I explained how uncomfortable I felt and he agreed that it's not right that I feel like that so he will stop going in her house, he understands that it's not on etc etc.
Well yesterday what do i see him do, go into her house (you can see her house across the street). He comes back and I have a moody look on my face.
Am I being unreasonable, as he seems to think I am being? Do you not think I have a right to be put first as his wife? I need some advice as to how to make him understand how upset I am that even though this is making me feel really uncomfortable he still won't stop going in her house? I don't want to come across as the needy possessive wife because that really isn't me but I'm feeling really awful it's actually making me feel sick. And like i said I'm much more mad woth him than her, as far as I am concerned she doesn't really owe me anything but he definitely owes me his loyalty. And I don't think he's having an affair but I am worried they are getting too close emotionally. Help!! Thank you