Would you be worried: spider senses

[IsabellaMoltisantixx]

Would u be worried if your dp acted like this before going away for three nights for work?:

Much more distant with you, gone from cuddling, lovey dovey to sitting far apart on sofa on iPad or phone (not exactly doing something suspicious -can just see he's on eBay or playing games)

Starting to accuse you with going with other men. This isn't uncommon for him/the relationship but hasn't done it for awhile. Just randomly starts saying bet you've been with more than you've told me about" them basically calling you a liar

Bit more snappy with you, I.e "can't you do this right?" Kinda thing

Only mentioning he's going away on train when he usually has a works car, also usually goes away with a secondary person at work but not this time? Sounds legit enough but would it worry you?

They are single tiffin servings unless he took along a fork the size of a garden fork to skew perspective.

Don't get carried away with a photo of food. Spidey senses, trust them. Yes he is behaving weird. The food is not weird.

He's taken the pic from that angle to get all the dishes in. Small dishes

@Gemini69

Yes it's definitely him - same clothes he left in, he also told me the restaurant name that's near the hotel so sounds legit enough. However, the way he is acting is weird. He took ages to answer txts and only rang me back st hotel when usually hed ring me walking to the hotel from getting food, just all a bit strange. Having a huge effect on me and just can't be doing with the hurt/betrayal

Maybe he didn't want his dinner to get cold and he knew you were ringing to check up on him. Maybe he was on the toilet and forgot to ring you back.

Sweetheart. I'm so so sad so see you're still with this sick bastard.

I know that you're in a tricky situation because of your children but my heart bleeds for you it really does.

@glagdy

Thanks that's really nice but I can never muster the strength to leave him n if I do I just wanna go back to him again I really don't understand it

@HereIgoagainxx

Well he rang when he was back in hotel but then went silent after that about 8pm so just confused as to if that was because he was another ow

Is it just me or would his torso have to be really long for that to be both him sitting in the chair on the left and the person taking the picture?

Isabella it sounds as though you are tying yourself in knots.

You obviously do not trust him a bit, which essentially means your relationship is dead in the water. Or do you want to carry feeling like this every time he goes away in the future?

If you're serious about staying with him, you both need counselling (and I would suggest both individually and together).

Will you please, down the love if all that's human, get some help? Is this going to be your life? Obsessing about how many dishes he has for his dinner?
Fuck him
Fuck his dinner menu
Go. Get your head together.
You have never met anyone better?
Well you won't when you are in this condition. In a constant so scyle of paranoia. Jealousy and being blackmailed.
Pleas for you and your kids.

If he works away so much then he os not likely to have the dc much.

Why are trying to catch him out with an OW as you have already said you won't leave him..so what is the point of all the detective work.
How old are your dc?
I think you would bd better spending your time on understanding why you won't leave.

If you won't leave him then you're going to have to make the best of what he is. So stop trying to catch him out, stop winding yourself into knots over whether or not he's being unfaithful, just accept that he may be playing around but you've made the choice to stay. You're just torturing yourself with all of this for no reason.

Agree with Agatha. You are not going to leave him anyway, so what is to be gained by knowing.

I don't know how anyone can live in such a state. It sounds awful.

Does he normally send you photos of his meal?

But this doesn't sound good for you at all, sitting at home worrying your self sick if he's with another woman. He works away a lot so this will come up again.
Think about what you want and if it's him then you should have a frank talk about how you're feeling, if he cares he'll listen and take it on board.

At least get checked out for sti's. Have some thought for your physical health even if you are neglecting your mh.

OP - this sounds like an awful relationship, does it give either of you any pleasure? I wouldn't tell any man who I slept with in the past, none of his business and I can't count that high anyway. How exhausting for you to be examining his food pictures. I would think he is probably seeing other people if he is angry before going - to make you react and give him an excuse. Equally he could be messing with your head to make you think he is cheating so he can call you crazy. This is an awful way to live, how to you get any peace and contentment.

All I can really say is that gut instincts have always turned out to be right in my experience. I don't know the food picture is indicative of anything at all, lots of restaurants put things in tiny bowls and I must say I do eat alone in restaurants and I sometimes order enough food it would look like a meal for two (embarrassingly). All I can recommend is that you try to get hold of him without prior warning and see if he seems to be trying to avoid speaking to you. There is always the possibility of asking a private investigator to follow him on what you believe to be a suspicious trip, but the fact your already so concerned possibly already answers your question

Op I don't want to bring up other threads either and I understand you worry about being separated from your children again but I don't see how you can stay with this man after all he's done.

I know you've tried various agencies to help but can't you try again? Women's aid? You need to get away from him my love.

@HandlebarTash81 exactly see why in paranoid

He does usually send pics of food when out working away. But never in that position it's just an odd position like why take it from the top and just not straight on? It's like he didn't want me to show what was in front of him

That is weird actually. From that angle, he can’t see the viewfinder.

@GreenFingersWouldBeHandy

I see where you're coming from but I honestly am ok when he goes away except when he acts distant like this and not really reassuring
He went away a few weeks ago for one week n I was fine I think it's cos everything's been built up

And what better way then to ask MN as everyone here has been through it or know of the signs, least it's real here if I ask my friends or family is biased!! I'd rather ask people on here Iv been a member on here for years n it's gotten me through tough times

Also, the advice would be very honest, if I google "is my partner cheating on me" it comes up with a list of signs, however, when he's here he's ok n doesn't do those signs it's just when he's away this time some stuff hasn't added up n it's confused me cos wouldn't he have to have ow in that location? Like how did he meet ow when he lives far from there

What @lolaflores said x 1000

Read your posts back and see how mad you sound: obsessing over dishes in a fucking restaurant to see how many your h had and if he was with someone else! What a waste of your life.

You don't trust him as far as you can throw him, so there's no point being together.

I don't want to be harsh but as he's cheated on you already countless times I'd safely assume he's doing it again.

@HandlebarTash81

So could that imply something suspicious? I thought I was being mega paranoid but Iv had a fair few responses on here that shows I'm not! So am glad for any kind of feedback