Would you be worried: spider senses

[IsabellaMoltisantixx]

Would u be worried if your dp acted like this before going away for three nights for work?:

Much more distant with you, gone from cuddling, lovey dovey to sitting far apart on sofa on iPad or phone (not exactly doing something suspicious -can just see he's on eBay or playing games)

Starting to accuse you with going with other men. This isn't uncommon for him/the relationship but hasn't done it for awhile. Just randomly starts saying bet you've been with more than you've told me about" them basically calling you a liar

Bit more snappy with you, I.e "can't you do this right?" Kinda thing

Only mentioning he's going away on train when he usually has a works car, also usually goes away with a secondary person at work but not this time? Sounds legit enough but would it worry you?

I know he's not a very good guy but to leave him u wouldn't be able to see my kids everyday and that would kill me

Skype him at odd times unannounced trust me if there's someone else you'll soon get your answer. My hubby used to contact us whilst working away all the time.. then suddenly it died down to once a week in a Sunday morning.. hmm red flag number one. Always called daily, on his walk home from the office.. red flag number 2 never answered calls from me whilst at the apartment.. once when my son was in a&e must have called 20 times in a panic.. red flag number 3.. see the pattern! Anyway he was living a double life pretty much. Never found out until the ow got nasty and then all became clear. If there's a time difference use that to your advantage. It's very common for these delightful husbands to have their cake and eat it whilst work so hard away from home.. needless to say I'm taking my cf soon to be exh to the cleaners. Sorry I have no faith. Trust no one

Ok please tell me if this a legitimate pic?!? Only got that of him around 7.30 saying he'd gone to a restaurant on his own to eat (?!)
Then sent that pic
To me it looks like he's taking it from a birds eye view instead of just in front almost like hiding something? Am I just being paranoid? Going crazy!!

I think your being paranoid about that picture, I often take birds eye view of food so you can actually see it - as does my DH. Everything else...I wouldn’t like to say. I don’t think your gut is always right, and sometimes it can sense something but not the right thing, I wouldn’t like to say.

likes his grub huh

Ok thanks, I did think that but Iv madly just scrolled through other pics he's sent me on different occasions where he's eaten out n never done that??

Why in suspicious? Whilst he was out for dinner didn't reply to my txt, when he did it was like 15 mins later, just find it weird

Is it normal for someone to eat in a busy restaurant on their own?! I think this is odd?!? I don't mind pub grubs or small cafes but this is a new busy restaurant

@Gemini69

Are you implying it's too much for one person? This is exactly what I thought!!! That's why I posted the pic to see if that shouted out at anyone too

I eat in restaurants on my own. How is that weird?

@HereIgoagainxx

Ok fair enough, I just wouldn't especially not the kind of restaurant he was in -

But what about the making of food he had? For one person?!?!

That's normal for one person.

My DH works away a lot and so always eats on his own in restaurants - what else would you expect him to do? Not eat? And perfectly acceptable amount of food in my opinion, looks like he’s got a curry and rice with a couple of side dishes, nothing unusual about that.

Huh that's like three different curries and rice?!?!

And you could argue that even if you did think it was a lot of food, it’s barely been touched so unlikely to be more than person!

Looks like a bento box to me - google them, they come with numerous dishes - a lot of modern Indian restaurants do them now.

@whynot93

Thanks for this. He's definitely acting odd this time he's been away but I dunno if it's because he's gone down on his own, usually they go as a team or a colleague . Apparently, this was a lone job so it's just him and I can imagine him being bored n trying to pass the time...

I researched it from the restaurant and looks like it was a tiffin but it was on the "share" list I'm really confused
Although it did say 19£ pp
So I can't make out if it means that's what u get one pp

Will maybe have to ask to see receipt and work it out

I might have got the name wrong actually but basically they’re small dishes that come together in what looks like a big tin then you take each layer off - not explaining it very clearly at all. But either way, they’re not big portions. And if he’s like my DH who gets everything paid for, he will order a few dishes he likes the look of just because he can because it won’t cost him anything.

That’s it a tiffin!

I think the food is a red herring. However he sounds like a prize twat. Please OP, have a word with yourself. He is a dreadful person. I am sure that you and your dc could do better, even if that means having no man in your personal life.

You don't trust him at all, so why be with him?

where are the individual dish serving spoons.. ? in the dishes ? did he use his hands ?

@Gemini69

Jesus!!! I didn't even notice that omg bleeding good point!! Right my plan is to confront it with him tomorrow he has one more night there let's see where he eats tomorrow

They're tiny dishes that make up one option on the menu. If you don't trust him fair enough but that photo in no way indicates infidelity, unless it's a stock photo taken from the internet.

but where are the spoons to get the portions of food from the bowls onto his plate..? you wouldn't use your Fork .. but I agree.. it's not enough to say he's being unfaithful... because there are no spoons in the photo.. are they on another nearby plate? but the food looks untouched in the other bowls.... OP Is the T-Shirt in the photo his T-Shirt ? start with that..

okay it's not a stock image.. I searched for it using the image.. in google.. he might be simply having a meal