Has anyone been on the fence about fancying someone but then it developed anyway because you loved their personality?

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I fancy his personality so much and the kissing so far has been great. We’ve been seeing each other 2 months. He makes me laugh and I think he is a really really great person. He’s not unattractive, but also not really my ‘type.’

I don’t fancy the pants off him when I look at him. It’s all his personality that has generated the feelings of wanting to kiss him and I enjoyed that. I can’t yet imagine sex with him but do want it to progress.

Has anyone else felt like this and it developed into a full relationship despite this issue at the start? Without wanting to sound arrogant, I know he fancies me so that isn’t a problem.

I really like him...

I was always like this while dating. I don't really get instant attraction to someone, no matter how good looking they are. It always grew for me after spending time together and getting to know their personality, then the more I saw them the more I was physically attracted.
I always knew when there was and wasn't the potential for me to fancy them, though and there had to be a spark. When I met my husband, I found him attractive and we clicked, but the more I got to know him I warmed up more and more and the sex was amazing. I can't take my eyes off him now, 2 years down the line.
Someone might be perfect personality wise, but if I didn't feel a spark, I wouldn't end up fancying them.

great thread! i did - i didnt think anything of him physically when we first met. i fell fro his sense of humour and intellect. weeks later i couldnt wait to be close to him and the sex was amazing. it ended for other reasons but i used to look at him and think he was the most attractive man on the planet!! (he wasn't!)

A friend worked with her oh for nearly a year before he asked her out. She didn’t fancy him at all and I think they have been together 14 + years now.

Attraction is about more than just what he looks like, women are attracted to a whole range of traits in men. You're obviously attracted to him because of his personality. Other things like status, money and physical strength/height can also make someone more attractive. It's evolutionary.

My DH is not my usual type either, & tbh it was something that concerned me at the start, but it doesn't anymore. We have fantastic chemistry and compatibility, and it's by far the best relationship I've ever been in.

Looks fade. An attraction based on other things will last much longer!

Yes! Been together almost 4 years now and bought a house together. When we first started seeing each other I couldn’t imagine us being more than just friends, but as I got to know him better and love him the attraction grew and keeps growing!

I have had times during our relationship where I’ve doubted how attracted I’ve been to him, but am always reassured by the fact that our connection in other ways is amazing and I think a relationship which grows on a foundation of love rather than lust will always be longer-lasting.

Can I also say that despite DH not being perfect to look st when we first met, I now absolutely can’t imagine any man looking anywhere nearly as perfect as he does.