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AIBU re living with my DP? I think I am...

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Strawbroke · 15/09/2018 10:20

I'm temporarily living with my DP and my 3dcs as there's a building delay with the new house I'm buying. I'm really really grateful he has put us up. I don't have anywhere else to go due to a fall out with my parents.

There's 5 of us in his 2 bed Terrace so a bit of a squeeze! Plus his two dogs. We've been here 4 weeks. Probably looking at another 4/8 weeks.

I'm struggling. This is where IABU I think. His house does not feel like home. He bought it and did it up with his ex. She still owns half (they split up 5 years ago) we have been together 2.5 years. She's brilliant, a really nice person.

I have done washing up, cooked etc and washed my DC's clothes but that's about it. This morning his day have pissed and shit all over the stairs to the kitchen and on the floor. I've got a kidney infection and feel terrible do haven't cleaned it up. I just can't bring myself to do it. In my head I'm thinking it's not my problem Sad

I feel uncomfortable and baseless and anxious all the time here. I'm not sleeping well. I work FT so I'm not here much but when I am here I'm on pins.

This is making me question if I want to be with DP anymore? I can't work out if it's living with him that's causing this or just the house. Whatever is happening I feel so unsettled. I left a physically abusive marriage 4 years ago and vowed not to live with anyone again. Circumstances have forced it and honestly, DP has been great! Supportive, kept the house going, bailed me out financially a couple of times. IABU aren't I? Anyone had any experience of being really thrown by living with a DP in their house? Sorry it's long.

OP posts:
Strawbroke · 22/09/2018 20:29

I have done the feeedom project but I think maybe I was too traumatised to take it in. I feel like when I'm re telling my experiences I'm just telling a street. I can't apply it to me. That 11 year old? It felt like another version of me. A better one, who didn't deserve it.

OP posts:
Santaclarita · 22/09/2018 20:45

How are you the disgrace in this? He is the disgrace. He mistreats defenceless animals. He is scum in my eyes.

If you can't stay there, then could you stay in a Premier Inn for the 9 days like someone suggested?

Please tell his ex how he mistreats those dogs.

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