This is rude right?

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Been ‘seeing’ a guy for a while...he’s not ready for gf/bf status yet. I’m kinda ok with that

We had plans for tonight my DC with their dad and he’s off work. We had a bit of an argument on Sunday I pulled him up on a comment I seen on his SM anyway I assumed all
Was sorted. We were texting yday and I said I was looking forward to our plans tonight and he wb oh I have a family thing on it’s just came up so plans changed to seeing me after. He told me he’d let me know times etc I text earlier did he know times yet he said no....and five hours later still no word.

This is rude yeah?

Yep, its's rude and I hazard a guess when or if he contacts you later it will be a booty call after his last minute 'family thing' (which sounds like bollocks btw). How long you been seeing each other?

On and off six months

This isn't working. For either of you. Call it off now; it won't get better and it sounds like he's close to doing it anyway.

If after 6 months he isn't interested in being bf/gf sounds like he is happy with very casual meet ups and doesn't see you both as a serious future relationship prospect. If you are happy with that carry on seeing him when it's convenient FOR YOU. As you have dc though and like to do stuff in your child free time make time for your girlfriends instead, don't waste your valuable time on someone who is treating you so casually. Message your friends and suggest an impromptu night out, cinema, meal??

Don't waste your time. You haven't elaborated on the SM comment but it was enough to annoy you. Making other plans and fitting you in around them means he doesn't value you. Now he expects to leave you hanging. You're not a priority. Why accept that?

Don't even bother telling him. He's clearly blown you off for tonight. Just dont reply when he inevitably booty calls you when he finds himself at a loose end over the next while.

And on and off for six months? He's wasting your time. Sorry. Set your standards a bit higher in future.

Sounds like a waste of valuable time alone with no children - go out with your girlfriends

Ltb

I'd end it before it starts

I have a weird gut feeling that the family thing is possibly a date lol don’t know why but it’s a thought that hasn’t left me.

We’ve been back in contact the past five weeks and I’m disappointed as he seemed different this time with different things that he had been doing. I’m not going to contact him again about times but I know if he does contact me and I wb or ignore him it will play into his hands to say I’m hard work

And the can we rearrange text has been received bloody typical

end this

Don't be his back up OP. You're worth more than that. My money is on him being on a date tonight and he couldn't give you times because he was waiting on her. While you're wasting time with him you could be missing out on meeting someone who values you.

You could tell him you now have other plans and ignore. Invite your mates around for pizza and a box set, bet you have a much better time.

Sounds like he's been waiting to see if his other plans were on for tonight and if not, he'd have seen you. Don't ever let yourself be second best. I wouldn't bother replying to him.

He is not only rude, but also taking the piss. Be kind to yourself op and bin this joker.

He’s now turning it onto me that I’m over reacting because I have said it’s best to leave things

On/off for 6 months and no status on the relationship
Not looking good is it OP :(

Ditch it, you deserve better. Can you get a friend round or go out?

Sorry didn't see you updated

I’d already organised to go out with a friend I’m just annoyed at myself for falling into his bullshit again

You haven't overreacted at all, you simply cannot be arsed with him anymore. Ignore his tantrums and block. Have a good night out op!

Agreed! You deserve better than this
Enjoy your night out OP, put your phone on silent or block him incase he starts to bother you

Yep. Hes totally blowing you off.

If he really cared that much he'd give you a decent explanation. Just say you're not being awkward or deliberately obtuse but it has felt lately, after you discussed the SM comment, that he's distanced himself. On top of that seemingly changed plans at the last minute, avoided giving a time to meet up after which again added to you feeling this way. After 6months of dating I think you can expect someone to stick to a plan and show some respect.

So theres either a decent explanation (which I highly doubt you'll get) or it's time to move on.

Definitely call it a day, it’s not working. It’s never going to be a formal gf/bf thing now, it’s gone on too long. i also believe he’s had a better offer and I wouldn’t be surprised if you didn’t hear from him again anyway. It sounds like he’s cooled off.

What everyone else said. He’s kicking off because you’ve called him on his bullshit and his pissed he’s losing his booty call.

Ps. What ‘wb’?

You're not overreacting. You've self respect and boundaries and worth far more than his game playing.