This is rude right?

[Savemenow81]

Been ‘seeing’ a guy for a while...he’s not ready for gf/bf status yet. I’m kinda ok with that

We had plans for tonight my DC with their dad and he’s off work. We had a bit of an argument on Sunday I pulled him up on a comment I seen on his SM anyway I assumed all
Was sorted. We were texting yday and I said I was looking forward to our plans tonight and he wb oh I have a family thing on it’s just came up so plans changed to seeing me after. He told me he’d let me know times etc I text earlier did he know times yet he said no....and five hours later still no word.

This is rude yeah?

@Savemenow81

He sounds like an arse. Hope you did something else with your evening

Had a lovely night with my friend...I haven’t heard from him. I have always had the gut feeling that he is a bit of a liar but due to my last relationship ending badly I doubted myself and thought I was projecting onto him unfairly.

Gut feeling tonight he got a better offer and went with it (her). I think he has played a little on my own insecurities and played them to his advantage.

That's it lass!!! Go have fun without that fuckwit. Obviously not deserving of your time and effort.
Move on to bigger and better things

The bright side is you have recognised him for what he is. And you have enough self respect to fuck him off. I applaud you m'lady

@Savemenow81

Glad you had a good night & didn't waste it waiting around for him!
He seems pretty rude & not bothered about letting you waste your time, he 100% belongs in the bin!

xx

If it's in the first year and it's already on/off and causing you upset, it's just pointless.

If he tell you you're over reacting again tell him to make the most of it, it's the last reaction he will get!

On and off within six months? Nope. You can both do better than this.

Any time I would ull him up on his behaviour I would be met with oh I can’t do serious conversations.

He completely swept me off my feet with declarations of love and how he’d never felt like this before then a few weeks later the coldness sets in. I told him this morning that I didn’t like feeling like the one constantly making the effort and him going hot and cold...his reply I don’t know what to say

Hmmm I think that says it all

Yes it does . The message couldn't be clearer. Get it.

Then move on. At this point the only person hurting you, is you.

I think wb is wrote back

Sorry yes wb is wrote back

Onwards and upwards!!

Always always go with your gut

Number deleted call logs deleted messages deleted 😫😫 I need to stay away this time

Good for you. Stay strong

Ugh I’m now questioning myself did I push him away with the insecurities from my last relationship...the last few weeks I was asking him questions that he probably found annoying and put him off me 😫🤦🏻‍♀️

Don't question yourself. My ex was exactly like this. Strung me along for years. Honestly, once you find someone who treats you like a person and not an entertainment device you'd realise how unhappy you've been and how happy you can be.

Don't question yourself! Seriously -- don't. Even if you weren't your Best Self all through these past 6 months, there were still so many red flags:

• 6 months and still not even bf/gf
• On and off relationships (ALWAYS a bad sign)
• You think he's a liar
• Blown out for better offer

I'm so proud of you for binning him. Don't waiver now! You did the right thing, 100%

6 months and he doesn't know if he wants something more serious? Totally taking the piss.

You can do better. And yes, it was ride to ignore you.

Hard work ?
He's hard work.
Booty call.
You did good.
Girl power !!

Forget about him, he was playing you and trying to convince you that you were imagining it. Block and move onwards and upwards

Don't question yourself OP.

He's a twat. After 6 months you're allowed to ask questions even if they get a bit deep. At least, you are if you're with someone that matters.

Don't question yourself. There's not one person on here who has remotely questioned whether you should walk away from this man...

It's natural to be upset, you've put time and energy into the relationship. Try and concentrate on the bad things you've written.

A real keeper would support you and help you through insecurities. You probably wouldn't even have those insecurities with someone who wasn't hot and cold. It's not you.

this guy cannot be clearer.. he is using you

I got another message off him ‘he will regret this but can’t commit to me at the minute’ lol jeezzzz honestly I will slap myself if I even entertain this dick again

Ignore and delete. He is showing you exactly what he is. A decent man who cherishes you, would be making an effort and knows what he wants, i.e. you.