is internet flirting cheating?

[spogs]

I have just found out my partner has been flirting on the internet he claims it is harmless and i have nothing to worry about and soes not see my problem with it .....help me understand it........if you can as i cannot

thanks will let you know how he responds to my suggestion tonight

i guess if he does not go i have my answer

Good luck, spogs!

thankyou

Good Luck!

Hi Spogs. I'm in such a similar predicament. H is chatting (whether on the phone or chat rooms I'm not sure yet)but is certainly texting them and running up massive bills doing it and yet we are in severe financial trouble. I also left 6 months ago and he begged me and the kids to come back; he knows how I feel about lying and dishonesty and yet is doing this. We sleep apart so while I am in bed upstairs alone he is downstairs doing whetever it is he does with these women. He doesn't know I know yet though.

hi onedaysoon thankyou for your message as selfish as it sounds glad to hear i am not the only one going through it.... i cannot understand it we are due to go to councellor soon so hopefully she will help get to the root of the problem i just doubt everything he does now and feel so must dis-trust

Spogs, I agree it is the mistrust. H doesn't know I know, so the more he spouts his lies the sicker I feel. The trouble is I can't confront him with it just yet as last time he found out I had been trying to get answers to stuff me and the kids ended up ina refuge, so I have to be very careful. I need to wait until I have enough solid evidence and then I can file for divorce. I need there to be no ambiguity at all; it needs to be clear cut as otherwise there is too much room for him to twist things. And you're not selfish in being glad you're not the only one!!! It really does help! Oh, and incidentally, mine won't even consider going for counselling. No way.

hi onedaysoon if you need someone to talk to as it is so nice to be able to talk to someone who is going through same thing my msn address is [email protected]

Hiya

Had same with dh constantly on porn sites and chatting when I was pregnant with 2nd dd and when pregnant he sent inappropriate emails to a women he met on a conference. Each time I found out, he never actually did anything physical but it still hurt like mad.....talked it (argued really) and we are still together but he knows if he ever did that again I will be off. Its hard that the men do not seem to have the ability to think before doing!!!! Good luck spogs.

thanks hun glad to hear he stopped kind of gives me hope my other half will

Onedaysoon, can you instill snooping software on his computer? That will give you hard evidence?

Spogs, glad to hear you will go for councelling, hope it will do you some good.

Hi Milkchocolate, unfortunately it's his mobile phone he uses to go into the chat rooms so not a lot I can do in the way of catching him.

Most men are just boys and like all boys we like to play. Like boys men are not what women would call mature and don?t understand that they easily hurt their partners. I knew a guy who got really cut up about his partner cheating on him even though he had other girlfriends. Men/boys generally can?t stand back and see the mess they are making until it is too late.