is internet flirting cheating?

[spogs]

I have just found out my partner has been flirting on the internet he claims it is harmless and i have nothing to worry about and soes not see my problem with it .....help me understand it........if you can as i cannot

yes i have he promises he will stop and does it again

Cheating or not, its completely disrespectful, innappropriate and utterly selfish.
At least an affair takes some balls, this is weasel-like in the extreme.

yes speccy and he says he would not mind as he sees no problem with it

Oooh, a site specifically designed FOR flirting - no, that's way out of order.

be interested to hear a mans opinion on it

thats what i am doing now every other aspect of our relationship is fine we have a fairly healthy sex life well healthy with a new born can be i just want him to stop but struggling to see a solution bar waliking away

The other person is probably a hairy bot trucker if that helps

how do i do that?

ok thankyou...where do i go to see what they say?

sorry new to all this

ok, gone through the thread, checked out face party and ready to offer a man's POV:

To all intents and purposes we are dealing with a dating website.

spogs, I think you are right to ask some pointed questions of your fella.

Occasional flirting is fun and pretty harmless IMO but this looks different.
Particularly worrying are the picture galleries and the texting options between members
(which I think is how the site makes money).

I just read your comments on the other relationship thread.

Did you say he pretends to be single but the girls know about you?

No, this is not right at all.

There is one silver lining though:
The fact that you two are openly talking about it.
Do you think he will understand how much this bothers you?

face party isn't just a dating website though, it's also a way of getting friends and just chatting. Is he saying he is single on there because there is an option to say married. Yes, it is more of a site for meeting people you dont know than say facebook or myspace, but its not just for dating.

What is he saying and to whom?

Can you set up your own faceparty site under a pseudonim and check up on him?

I certainly wouldn't classify all flirting as cheating, but it's how he portrays himself that is whether it is cheating or not.

Fair point, the site is not specifically for dating.

Would be interesting to know how many male friends spog's dp has made on face party.

funny you shoild say that as all his friends on there are girls and all are quite flirtatious photos, his profile says he is single and basically has a life i was unaware of on it....exchanging numbers even and chatting some of the girls i have chatted to when prying have said they knew about me but i feel very uncomfortable with it.he says he is addicted but cant help feeling like i fail him in some way for him to want to do it

You could spy on him? There is software such as Desktop Surveillance that can monitor activity on this site, log his keystrokes and email this on to you.

Do you know if he chats with these women on msn? Have cybersex with them?
You can go in on his msn and tick the box for record conversation history, and check back later.

One thing is harmless flirt, another thing is to actually be turned on by the conversation and going down the road of cybering with them. I dont think this is on at all. The emotions he has when doing this should be reserved for you only.

Don't want to play the blame game but don't you think
he is failing you? (oops, played it)

You are the one with a little baby and another child to look after.

If you had a bit more time on your hands I would suggest you set
up your own face party profile with some revealing pics and tell him
you want to join the party. See how he reacts.
Not sure that's an option at this point!

Apart from this addiction would you say he is a good, supportive Dad?
There is a lot of admirable honesty between you two,
surely some kind of a compromise should be achievable?

No it's not okay. My H's internet flirting led to a full-blown affair. I would say more it's a symptom of something else and that your partner is not happy for one reason or another. I should know I've been to hell and back in the last 18months and believe me where I'm at now is a fart better place facing single parenthood. It's my b'day on Saturday and I'm using it as the marker point for the first day of my New Life. I would find sometime where you can both sit down and talk about how it all makes you feel and see what his comments are. Good Luck.

internet flirting is most defo cheating IMO.and i once went out with sombody who used to use faceparty,he had about 80 womens' numbers in his phone with names like 'sexydebs' etc as well
.yuk.soooo glad i dumped him.

i have had loads of arguments with my dp over him chatting on the online game he plays.he has told me he only talks about the game on there and would never flirt,or respond to flirting.i would prefer if he didnt chat to women full stop but like he says,he doesnt know whether its a man or woman hes chatting to half the time,and he doesnt care.

you oh is bang out of order and i can understand why you feel let down.

if he's not going to stop then i think ending the relationship would be the only option,but does he realise this?does he even realise its wrong?