Did I do right thing sending this message

[messedupagainn]

Met guy through work and been talking by text continually for last two weeks, things are building up and think we're we're getting ready to meet soon.

So decided to just check he was def single as knew he was seeing someone few months back and he kind of avoid the question and joked about being married with 8 kids, I've been burned to many times so sent

Your avoiding the question, fine but I don't want to be part of all that, take care and got this message back

No just long story and bit late for that, and I've been texting you every night but great thanks

I responded not asking for long story just straight answer, avoiding makes me think your not in right place to be doing this right now

And he's gone offline and not responded

Now having second thought, did I do right thing? Was I out of order kind of feel that I've messed it up already

Being single or not is a one word answer.

The 'crazy ex-girlfriend' is a trope men use so that the former partner they have treated horrendously will not be believed or taken seriously. The fact that a mutual acquaintance confirms it really means nothing; that's how these guys work, by making their version of the story the Official Truth.

I wouldn't touch him with a very big stick.

Oh he is so messy. Well done for taking no shit. Bullet dodged. 👏🏻

A single guy who was interested would not be delaying communication when you’ve been texting every day.

You asked a direct question and didn’t get a straight answer.

He’ll try to keep you hooked as a potential opportunity - but do you really want a man who’s not straight from day 1?

It depends what you’re looking for, but it sounds like he’s a player full of the usual cliches.

Most women would assume he’s single from the attention - sadly, there are plenty out there pulling women in and if you had to ask him, you’re sensibly protecting yourself from what he’ll doubtless deliver.

Trust me, getting embroiled in the paranoia game is not the relationship foot you want to head out on. It’s miserable.

Gosh he sounds married/ relationship etc. Cynical but sadly having been fed such lines over the years I smell bullshit. I bet his partner doesn't know it's complicated.

If he was single he would have said so, and wouldn't be messing about. Maybe he'll invite you round for coffee when the ' landlady' is out. You've dodged a bullet op, very sensible question, and now you know the answer. Run, or be sucked in.

Anyway, just ask someone at your new job. I bet they've all been watching with interest anyway - you'll soon find out if he's the office lothario

If she knew it was casual and was OK with it, she never would have given him an ultimatum.

He is keeping you dangling whilst he drip feeds information to you - this behaviour will just wear you down. It’s really bad news if he is making you question yourself over something so innocent so early on in your relationship.

I think you have done really well to get out of this and have saved yourself years of stress.

She may have wanted it more than him. But why didn't he just say that?

Chances are he was/still is stringing her along.

Not read ft
But the truth is in the words
Long story

When yes or no would have done.