DP has on occasion been critical of me in the past and is a very opinionated person in general. ReceNtly he has really upped the anti with the latest incident being last night. When we have sex, he tells me what to do quite a lot and it is always him that calls the shots with regards to what position we try etc. He isn’t nasty when he does it but I do feel like he enjoys bossing me around.
After we had sex yesterday he asked me if I ever noticed that sometimes he loses his erection slightly. He said he’s spoken to his friends about it as he is wasn’t sure why he can’t stay completely hard with me. It’s not something that I’ve ever noticed before but the way he was talking has made me feel inadequate and as though maybe I’m not attractive enough. He also made a comment about me being quite vocal in bed and said in a patronising way: “it’s a turn on for me but some men really don’t like that you know.”
Other comments he’s made recently are that he doesn’t like it when I wear heels as it makes me the same height as him (apparently it makes him feel like less of a man as he prefers the woman to be smaller). He often starts sentences with: “you’re the only woman I know who...” and then will pay a backhanded compliment. I just feel like he’s comparing me to someone else or that he feels I’m not good enough for him.
We have only been together 6 months but he is pushing for us to try for a baby (I’ve said definitely not as it’s too soon) but it comes up every time I see him. It feels weird that he is so desperate for me to get pregnant and it’s making me uncomfortable.
Wise mumsnetters, what is going on with this man? Is he trying to control me or am
I being insecure?