Relationship so bad baby 4 weeks old

[mummyd17]

Hi I'm new on here and not really sure what I'm asking for just someone to talk to I guess as I feel so low and lonely
I have a 4 week old baby and a partner who is awful to me I'm desperate to hold things together for the sake of our baby but there's more and more rules everyday that I have to stick to else he threatens to leave ....
I genuinely thought things would be better after we had the baby I feel so stupid they are worse than ever I can't enjoy the baby I feel so low and lied to the health visitor that I feel fine but I don't at all
He made my life a misery while I was pregnant to the point I ended up having a csection through anxiety that I'd have no one to support me in labour and couldn't go through it with him by my side as I've had awful labours in the past
Sorry if I'm ranting I just don't know what to do anymore I want to be able to enjoy these special days with my baby but all I do is cry atm
We havent registered baby's birth yet and all my friends keep warning me not to put him on the birth certificate and they are panicking me now as I need to get it done and running out of time
Thanks for listening and hopefully someone has some advice or just to chat would be great I feel very lonely and low

NadiaLeon - that is absolute rubbish.

He is the father, and that can be proved by DNA testing if he pushes that so far. He will be responsible for the upkeep of his child, regardless of if he is on the Birth Certificate. CSA can and will demand DNA testing, if he contests paternity.

OP - he is being super nice so that you fall back into line, as you so rightly surmise. As soon as he feels that you are nicely compliant again, he will revert back to 'normal'. The only way to have a nice, calm and happy life - is with him out of it. He can still be a father, can still see the child, but he doesn't need to be in your life.

Tell the Health PROFESSIONAL everything. She is there to HELP you. No one is going to think you are a bad mother by getting an abusive father out of your life. Quite the opposite - if you don't get him away from you, you could not be a good mother because he will be messing with your MH.

How are you doing now?

Hi all sorry I've been away for so long life has been like a whirlwind I feel like I'm on the verge of a breakdown
Thank u all for replying to me I've missed coming on here to chat x

Hey. How is your situation now? Did you manage to speak with the HV?

I’m guessing your partner is still on the scene?

Keep writing and talking, lots of people who can offer very good advise