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Just got dumped (again) DILEMMA

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AsleepAllDay · 28/08/2018 16:04

This will be outing but oh well

I have lived in the U.K. for two years. Near the end of my time I started dating a man, let's call him C

For the time we were together, it was like love on steroids. I've been in love before but this was incredible and we both agreed it was so special and new

I went back home to my country. We agreed to stay together until I return.

My stay at home went on for months more than expected out of my hands and control.

The distance between us grew and I suffered. He broke up with me and I cried for weeks.

I am now coming back to the U.K. I still have feelings for C and tentatively thought we could see each other and figure it out

He now says he is seeing someone new and has chosen that path. He still has feelings for me and cares about me but he never thought I would return and so moved on accordingly

I'm coming back and this has really blindsided me. But to be coming back, I will be leaving a job I've just started in my home country (law firm) that has huge opportunity for advancement.

My work in the U.K. will be in my old field, which I am tired of and want to change at some point in my life.

At home, I'm living with family.

C was a HUGE part of my decision for returning to the U.K.

I also liked the lifestyle in the U.K. but Australia is still good

Do I stay in my home country and in my law job with the chance for being in a fulfilling career and living at home in a city I'll be with my family in?

Or do I come to the U.K. and hope C comes to his senses and do a job I think I will hate?

OP posts:
TatianaLarina · 30/08/2018 08:56

A two whole years, wow. But if you’ve already signed the contract, that’s a different issue.

You asked if you should come here for a man and a job you think you will ‘hate’. We all pretty much said no. What do you want from us?

bluebell34567 · 30/08/2018 09:15

do you have a ready job in UK? if so, come back then.
you said you have a few more years to explore, thats a good opportunity.

AsleepAllDay · 30/08/2018 09:26

@bluebell34567 yes! Not flying in to stalk C with a sniper rifle as some people are figuring

OP posts:
bluebell34567 · 30/08/2018 09:41

yes, just do it then. its your best time.

bluebell34567 · 30/08/2018 09:42

before settling down.

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