BF relationship with DM

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My boyfriend of a few years has a very close relationship with his mother. I’m mostly fine with this but I sometimes feel like she competes with me for his attention. I don’t dislike her but nor have I ever felt like she has accepted me. We have a cordial but not warm relationship.

We all went on a spa day yesterday and the spa had an outdoor pool with day bed lounger type things which would fit three/four people.

I was in the pool and he was on the day bed snuggling/cuddling with his DM. He is in his 40s.

I thought this was a bit weird but he told me that he loved his mother and anyone who had a problem with his relationship with his mother could ‘fuck off’.

I admit I have a completely different relationship with my mother. We don’t hug or kiss and never have done really. So my views might be a bit skewed. I certainly wouldn’t cuddle my mother whilst lying on a day bed in public, wearing swimwear and a dressing gown.

I’m not sure what I’m asking really. Is this a normal mother/son relationship or is there always going to be another person in our relationship?

Sounds odd to me but then i have the same relationship with my mother as you do!

That is odd. I would be running for the hills if my BF did that lol

I am close to my Mum ... but ..nahhh.... that's definitely on the far end of the typical behaviour scale.
Leave and don't look back

No, I'm close to both my adult daughters but your BF and his mother cuddling up like this is gross!

What's his relationship history?

Each to their own. I was once seeing a bloke who called his mum babe...... wtf 😬

Christ No, just no.

"Bitty" from Little Britain comes to mind.

So did you get cuddles as well?

Um, no.

No. I absolutely adore my DM and hug and kiss her. We often hold hands briefly while watching TV. She is 90 and very precious to me. But I have never cuddled her on a sun lounger. It's the sort of thing you do with a lover.

Has this bloke ever been married, OP? LTRs? I'm wondering if he's obsessed with mummy

Bitty! 🤣

He has had a few previous relationships but he has never been married or lived with a partner.

No, I didn’t get cuddles as well. It was all just too odd for me so I stayed in the pool.

Just no

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Brilliant!

Thats too much op.

I'm very close to my mum, cuddle her all the time. Wouldn't do it in public though!!

This guy has no space in his life for another woman, certainly never have children with him, this can only end in tears.

It sounds like he's just not affectionate enough with you. Maybe don't do so much with her, let him go see her on his own and do your own thing.

I would have found the spa day for three odd enough not to go. I hug my adult children but can't imagine cuddling any of them on a sun lounger.

Sounds like big Paul and Gaynor!

I’m beginning to think he is actually a bit of an arsehole. He told me that when he goes out with his friends that he spends a large portion of the night eyeing up other women and commenting on their attractiveness.

Why is he telling me this?

Sounds like he thinks he's God's Gift and his DM has nurtured this belief!

Do yourself a favour and ditch this creepy pair. It's not normal behaviour I don't care what anyone says.

The fact he has been vocally defensive about him and his mother's relationship shows that he knows deep down it's fucking weird.

That is really weird. I am very close to my dad. I hug him often. I kiss him (on the cheek) often. I tell him that I love him often. But I don't think that I had cuddled with him since I was prepubescant. Likewise I love my child a lot. I love cuddling with them. But if they still wanted to cuddle with me when they were grown men I would be very