Does your DP/DH shout?

[Daisymae2019]

When arguing does he ever shout a lot? Call you names, try to talk over you?How are the arguments like in your household?

Arguments are very rare, I can't even think what DH sounds like shouting. We might bicker a bit about something, then move on.

My husband doesn't shout or call me names , when we argue it's usually short lived and more like a heated discussion. We always apologise to each other afterwards.

Are you okay op?

DH never shouts, but will refuse to talk until i calm down. I get irritable very easily which isn't heloed by my PND and hormones all over the place. I do apologise to him constantly when I calm down though. Not afraid to admit I was wrong. I just react without thinking. I think some of it is to do with anxiety as well.

My DF also never shouted
Not to his wives, not to any of us children. For context: my DM used to yell all the time and DSM can raise her voice but I don't remember her yelling in an argument.

I couldn't be in a relationship where I was being yelled at. I shut down. DH and I are both on the spectrum so we clash a lot but we also tall things through as much as we can. His parents never argue from what I can tell. He doesn't remember them ever arguing

I've never heard my DH raise his voice in anger. Not once in 20 years.

No. Shouting is for football matches.

He used to talk over me and try and finish my sentences but I asked him to stop and he has. (Not talk over me because he’s a prick, he’d just be excited about something).

No, never shouted or called me names

I've never even heard my DH shout ever, we've been together 30 yrs and married 27, rarely argue either.

DH has never shouted at me in the whole 11 years we have been together. When we argue we don't shout at each other.
Arguing makes DH really nervous and he goes really quiet and withdrawn I BLAME MIL) I am a big fan of door slamming and storming off though.
The last time we argued was months ago in the middle of the night because I thought DH was doing something he wasn't. Anyway we whisper argued so we didn't wake dd up.

Absolutely not, and I don't shout at him. Shouting at you and talking over you indicates a complete lack of respect for you, and that's something I wouldn't tolerate in my own relationship.

No he hasn't raised his voice or called me names, but he has slammed doors when stomping off in a childish flounce while blaming it on my depression / hormones. But he's getting better at knowing he'll regret it later, so it's becoming less frequent.

No, never in 13 years. Slightly raised voices if very heated (maybe 3/4 times).

NEVER calls me names. Never.

I wouldn’t call him names either. We don’t argue really. Disagree sometimes, get irritated or annoyed but we don’t row. I hate it - grew up with near daily arguing and it was awful.

We both raise our voices but I wouldn't say we shout. And we will say "your being an idiot" or "your being a twat" but not directly call each other names, more like saying how the other is acting in that situation. We do talk over each other.

We both get quite heated in an argument tbf but we are definitely as bad as each other and a proper argument is rare. We do bicker though.

How does your OH talk to you? Is he intimidating?

Noooooo. He’s the most relaxed person I know.

I’m a nightmare though. I’ll scream and shout and slam around. I have zero patience and a horrible temper. We don’t ever really argue though, there isn’t really anything to argue about. We compliment each their really well.

Yep.. Shouts, calls names, personally attacks my looks etc, underminds me with kids, basically has no respect. I doubt u wud be asking this question if ur instinct wasn't telling u something was wrong. X

No. I have only heard him shout once and it scared the bejesus out of me, I ended up crying and he felt so guilty he’s never done it since. I don’t shout, I never really have so I don’t expect to be shouted at.

My husband refuses to argue, so, no, no shouting or name calling. We do bicker occasionally but never actually properly argue, it's actually quite frustrating.

I'm shouty but getting way better. Dh very quiet. He doesn't ever take offence, I'm lucky!

No, honestly, in 10 years I don’t think he has ever once shouted at me and certainly never called me a name.

I will admit I am the one with a hot temper and I do shout on rare occasions. I have definitely called him a few choice words once or twice, which is not great at all. But we have a very toxic and dangerous situation with a family member (related to abuse of another child in the family). My dh often feels stuck in the middle between us and his loyalty to his (dysfunctional) family. There have been a few times when I just got so frustrated with him and angry that he wouldn’t deal with them and it could have put our dc at risk. So yes, I was very angry, but no it’s not typical.

We don’t argue much, but when we do it’s mostly me arguing with him and him just nodding and taking it, which is annoying as all hell though. But he’s really never shouted at me or anyone I don’t think.

I've never been with anyone who shouts. I've never been with anyone who name calls.

It's normal for shit people, or folk who have no idea how to behave possibly due to having shit people for parents, to shout and name call of course.

We don't argue. I get upset, I explain why, he says sorry and explains what happened from his perspective, we agree on how it would look different from my perspective, we agree to try not to let a similar situation occur in future by doing xyz. And then it usually doesn't occur again. That's about it

Im the shouty one.... my DH has raised his voice maybe three times in the 5 years weve been together...
I shout more often, and cry, im just more expressive in that way generally. Its not just with him. And its not often TO him either if that makes sense?

On the whole we tend to have very middle class silent (ridiculous) passive aggressive arguments that dont last too long as one of us will end up finding it funny and making the other one laugh. These are usually about differences in what we think we should prioritise financially.

I find it very difficult when he is in a bad mood about anything... I think it scares me because I rely on his energy a fair bit as I am quite a volatile person and he is usually quite practical and calm. When the dynamic changes I find it very difficult. Thats something I am trying to work on because I know I shouldnt be putting that much emotional pressure on anyone. I find it hard to remain in a good mood if he is not in a good mood.

The worst arguments we have had revolved around moving house. Which we have stupidly done twice at Christmas (which is a very stressful time for us for personal reasons) We just had major blowouts about really petty stuff at this time just due to stress. We did scream and swear at each other just as bad from both sides.

and also once he took drugs and drove then lied about it (this is not a common thing this was literally once) which led to me being livid with him for a very long time.

Overall though weve on rare instances said some really extreme nasty stuff to each other: I trust that he loves me completely and I think he trusts me too.
Theres no name that he could call me in anger and no volume he could shout at on one rare occasion that would undo the amount hes been there for me and had my back over the years, and the love that hes shown me.

People shout at each other sometimes but I think you look at a relationship as the whole... how often is it happening and why? We all have bad days where stress gets too much and we dont act in the way we should.... I think that is different from lack of love or true disrespect.

In the 15 years I've been married, my partner has never shouted or called me names nor have I. We never argue, disagree or bicker, not once in our 15 years. What do we have to disagree about? We married one another because we agreed with each other 100 percent. I have the perfect husband and perfect family and am eternally grateful as I have truly made it in my life.

Yes. Lots. But he doesn't call me names, that would cross a line. It's more like "watch what you're doing!" and "why did you do that" shouting, not insulting me.

What's up, OP?

My ex did and that's partly why he's an ex. Too much negativity, anger and name calling it isn't right

Yes. He even snapped at me in the supermarket this afternoon for no reason. People stared at him and it was embarrassing.