Would you end a relationship because of this?

[everlynne]

I have a boyfriend who has family in Morocco. I have never visited them and he doesn't see them much. We have been dating for 5 months.

He went to Morocco a few days ago (still there) for today which is a religious day I'm not too sure what it's called.

He slaughtered some sheep and doesn't seem that bothered by it at all. It has really affected me actually and I'm just wondering if his would be an extreme reason to end the relationship?

It's an extremely weird reason to end a relationship. Maybe he's not the chap for you. You sound too different.

You can end a relationship for any reason you like. 5 months in you should walk away if anything makes you feel uncomfortable.

You can end a relationship for any reason, and no reason at all. Unless you’ve made a commitment to him, if this is a big no for you, well then it is.
Lots of people will come on and say it wouldn’t bother them, but as they are not in the relationship, it’s irrelevant.

You can end the relationship at any time. However it is Eid which is the biggest day of the Muslim calendar. This is probably a very special day for him and his family and he is following the tradition his family have done for probably hundreds of years. It might be worth trying to understand the culture and his traditions to help you understand why he does it and perhaps make you feel more comfortable

Your cultures are very different and probably not compatible if this is an issue for you.

Only you can decide.

It's just the "I don't care" attitude around it. I know it's tradition but so is marrying girls at 13 to adults a tradition in some cultures or whatever. Doesn't mean I like it.

I just don't know if it seemed too harsh to end it over 1 thing I didn't like.

You are simply culturally too different. That's all.

You don't need to justify it or equate it to something else.

If he's Moroccan, I'm assuming he's Muslim. And I'm assming the religious festival is Eid.

I'm surprised you don't even know the name of the festival he's celebrating.

It doesn't sound like you're very compatible.

Are you vegetarian?

There is a massive cultural difference between you.

It’s as traditional for Eid as crackers and plum pudding for Christmas. It would be deeply weird if he pretended to be appalled by slaughtering an animal for your sake. Do you eat meat, OP?

You eat meat, right? How do you think the animal that you eat goes from being alive to your plate?

We have holidays where we slaughter animals to celebrate, Christmas Turkeys, Easter lamb etc.

Eid is a massive holiday/celebration and as one poster said above, it's surprising you've not taken an interest. Especially as he would have been fasting for the last month.

Of course if it's a deal breaker for you then end the relationship as he's not going to give up his culture and traditions just as you won't be either.

He hasn't been fasting. He doesn't usually follow Muslim traditions like his family.

Are you vegetarian or not?

I wouldn't be with someone who worked in a slaughter house in the UK, is that just me?

How do you not know what the religious festival is?! Doesn't sound like much of a relationship to me, really.

I'm vegan but I wouldn't not be with someone because they are not vegan.

Because he isn't very religious. He doesn't follow any religion when he is in the UK only around family so I didn't really know.

You're only five months in. You have seen another side to him.

You are allowed to decide you're too different. I wouldn't start persuading him to be a vegetarian, or a bit less Moroccan.

At least he's got the guts to kill the animals he eats, as opposed to buying it in plastic boxes in supermarkets or in bread buns.

What do you eat together?

My DH used to work in a slaughter house.

I'm veggie, doesn't bother me. It was a job, in an area employment is hard to come by.

If you had male sons would you want them circumcised? Because chances are he would.

Surely you know it is Eid though?