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Would you end a relationship because of this?

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everlynne · 22/08/2018 21:31

I have a boyfriend who has family in Morocco. I have never visited them and he doesn't see them much. We have been dating for 5 months.

He went to Morocco a few days ago (still there) for today which is a religious day I'm not too sure what it's called.

He slaughtered some sheep and doesn't seem that bothered by it at all. It has really affected me actually and I'm just wondering if his would be an extreme reason to end the relationship?

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Monty27 · 23/08/2018 02:23

You don't seem to appreciate nor know all that much about his culture

AcrossthePond55 · 23/08/2018 02:54

You don't need to justify ending a relationship of such short duration. All you have to say is 'it's no longer working for me' and leave it at that.

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 23/08/2018 07:35

I don't see how this is much different to the millions of people in the UK who don't go to church but happily celebrate Christmas and Easter....

so funny ...can't quite remember slitting the donkey's throat in the middle of the Nativity play though....Hmm

FairylightsTentsAndBunting · 23/08/2018 08:11

I'm vegetarian. I have a lot more respect for meat eaters who rear, slaughter and then consume animals than those who buy it prepacked in supermarkets. Especially as the majority of them are squeamish about slaughter and don't like their meat to look like an animal or be reminded that's where it came from.

I will be honest and say that I don't know anything about the slaughter at Eid so if the animal were wasted or suffered great distress or dear prior to the slaughter, I'd have an issue with that, I would have more respect if it were done humanley and the animal eaten.

As for him not celebrating, I am a Christian in name. In reality, I don't believe any aspect of it but we still do Christmas every year. Like most people.

It's not about living two lives or any such nonsense, it's about getting together with his family and participating in cultual traditions.

Given that you don't appear to know anything about him his culture, you could speak with him and learn about it.

Or just end it.

FairylightsTentsAndBunting · 23/08/2018 08:12

*fear
*humanely

RaininSummer · 23/08/2018 08:17

He may not be an observant muslim when with you but as he gets older and settles down, I bet he will be. If this isnt how you want to live and bring up children then this is probably the indication you need to end.it.

Funicorn · 23/08/2018 09:27

I will be honest and say that I don't know anything about the slaughter at Eid so if the animal were wasted or suffered great distress or dear prior to the slaughter, I'd have an issue with that, I would have more respect if it were done humanley and the animal eaten.

so you are on here spouting about respect for meat eaters blah blah BUT YOU DON'T KNOW ABOUT HALAL SLAUGHTER ? Confused Hmmmm....

Viola82 · 23/08/2018 10:00

"Your cultures are very different and probably not compatible if this is an issue for you.
Only you can decide."

just that

Kennycalmit · 23/08/2018 10:28

Yes I would end this

I saw people asking if you were vegetarian and I was hoping you’d say yes! Otherwise it would be very hypocritical of you. Like those people who cry out about the Korean dog meat festival while eating a beef burger Hmm

What do you eat together?
Why does this matter??? Most food is vegan. When people tuck into chicken it isn’t the chicken that tastes good, it’s usully the vegetarian/vegan sauces/marinades that make it taste good! It’s really not difficult to share the same meal but the veggie or vegan just simply cuts out the meat/animal products from their plate.

It all boils down to morals and ethics OP. You both have very different morals and for that reason alone I’d leave.
I wouldn’t want to be with a man who slaughtered animals either.

He was in another country, following an age old religion and ritual. He didn’t eat her hamster

How ignorant. When people genuinely love animals (not the fake animal lovers who still eat animals), it doesn’t matter whether it’s your own hamster or a wild sheep. An animal is an animal. Why can’t you accept that?

will be honest and say that I don't know anything about the slaughter at Eid so if the animal were wasted or suffered great distress or dear prior to the slaughter, I'd have an issue with that, I would have more respect if it were done humanley and the animal eaten

As a vegetarian this really shocks me. I find it very hypocritical. There is NO such thing as humanely killing something that doesn’t want to be killed. If a man murdered somebody by killing them instantly shooting them in the head, would it be okay because the victim was killed ‘humanely’ and felt no pain?

Regardless of whether it’s done quickly or not, the animal doesn’t wish to be killed! There is nothing humane about taking the life of someone/something that doesn’t want to killed. Animals aren’t ours to eat, so as a vegetarian saying you don’t mind animals being killed as long as it’s done “humanely” and it’s for them to be turned into food is just baffling.. Confused

FairylightsTentsAndBunting · 23/08/2018 10:32

I do know about halal slaughter but I've not seen it performed. I don't know how well the animals are treated beforehand and i don't know if they are fearful. I don't know if it's done quietly or if there are a lot of people around. I don't know what happens to the meat from the animal - although I'm guessing it's eaten.

I also know how animals are slaugtered in abbatoirs but I've never seen it done and couldn't give the details of that either.

My point is I would always have more respect for someone who reared and killed an animal to eat than i would people who bought the sanitised, farmed, prepared supermarket versions.

Dennishoppersocks · 23/08/2018 10:33

He was in another country, following an age old religion and ritual. He didn’t eat her hamster

“How ignorant. When people genuinely love animals (not the fake animal lovers who still eat animals), it doesn’t matter whether it’s your own hamster or a wild sheep. An animal is an animal. Why can’t you accept that?”

How ignorant of what, exactly? What am I not accepting?
Of course an animal is an animal, and so if the OP had a problem with eating them, she should only date vegans surely?

It’s my view that animals ARE ours to eat, they taste nice even without condiments and your pro veggie posts are irrelevant to the thread.

DialsMavis · 23/08/2018 10:41

Home slaughter is almost certainly kinder than factory farming. I am vegan and I think that I would have more respect for a partner that raised and animal, looked after it well then dispatched it as quickly as possible than for someone who who bought factory farmed meat from a supermarket, but I dunno how I would feel if it really happened for me.

You are entitled to your opinion and feelings regardless and don't need other people's approval to end your relationship.

Isitovernow · 23/08/2018 10:46

Just to answer your question, yes I would end a relationship over this. I actually cried reading this post. I get very upset over humanity's mistreatment of animals so I could never connect to or commit to someone who would slaughter sheep Sad

FourFriedChickensDryWhiteToast · 23/08/2018 10:47

that is what people do in Morocco and similar places though, slaughter a sheep...

I don't see the problem, unless you are a staunch vegetarian.

discopisco · 23/08/2018 10:48

@Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname

so funny ...can't quite remember slitting the donkey's throat in the middle of the Nativity play though....

Perhaps not the donkey but surely the turkey having its neck snapped using a broom?

everlynne · 23/08/2018 10:53

People are posting like what he did was nice.

After having a conversation with him about it. The sheep was bought, left tied up for the day, killed with a bunch of small children around and left to bleed out. It's too much for me and although the majority on here seemed to have made me think I was being OTT after knowing about what happened it's too much for me.

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FairylightsTentsAndBunting · 23/08/2018 10:53

Kenny I didn't say that I respected it or that I was ok with it but I acept that people don't feel the same way as I do about eating meat and I would have MORE respect for someone who reared and slaughtered an animal themselves for their own consumption than i would someone who bought supermarket meat. It's relative.

FourFriedChickensDryWhiteToast · 23/08/2018 10:56

I also would have more respect for a meat eater who was prepared to do the slaughter etc., than someone who eats meat from a plastic packet and then gets horrified about where it came from. I think it is good for children to know where their meat comes from , too.

Anyway, you are being really dramatic now, Were you there?

FairylightsTentsAndBunting · 23/08/2018 10:56

Animals aren’t ours to eat, so as a vegetarian saying you don’t mind animals being killed as long as it’s done “humanely” and it’s for them to be turned into food is just baffling..

I would like you to quote where I said I "don't mind" please.

FairylightsTentsAndBunting · 23/08/2018 10:59

If a man murdered somebody by killing them instantly shooting them in the head, would it be okay because the victim was killed ‘humanely’ and felt no pain?

Well it would be more humane than them being hung drawn and quartered...

Indidn't say, at any point, that I thought it was ok but I see you are one of those vegetarians who cannot process language accurately on this matter and give the rest of us a bad name.

Cantseeanend · 23/08/2018 11:06

Tbh I think you should read up on it . My friend is a Muslim and is celebrating eid at the moment . The fasting was already done in June so it’s an additional eid where Muslims make their trip to Mecca . But those at home pray visit with friends and family . The lamb is slaughtered and the family eat some and they share the rest with friends and neighbours and donate to the poor .
I don’t think it’s any more different as a previous poster said as to turkeys at Christmas .

I have to say I find different religions and customs fascinating and love to learn about them though so maybe read up about it all before you decide.

DialsMavis · 23/08/2018 11:07

Kenny: do you mind vegans thinking you are a "fake animal lover" if you are "only vegetarian"?

If you do why don't you stop preaching to others & policing what they can and can't think or eat and just be happy with your choices?

everlynne · 23/08/2018 11:10

It's not the religion I have an issue with so I'm confused why people are saying oh it's no different to the turkey at Christmas. I couldn't be with someone who murdered a turkey themselves in front on small children and just left it to bleed out.

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Mitzimaybe · 23/08/2018 11:10

It's just like someone who is nominally Christian but only goes to church at Christmas and for weddings, christenings and funerals. They are not observant in their every day life but go to church for special occasions. This is the same thing although slaughtering an animal isn't something Christians normally do, it is absolutely normal in Islam.

You are certainly within your rights to end the relationship over this, especially as you are vegan, but I think you should learn a bit more about other religions in general before getting into a relationship with anyone else from another culture.

Alicatz66 · 23/08/2018 11:10

You are having doubts OP ... I'd call it quits now before you get any deeper

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