Trauma bonding

[Missmadge]

Hi all,I’m new here and tbh barely holding it together.Long story short I was with my ex for two years,we don’t live together or share children but it was toxic from about 4 weeks in,he grabbed my face so bad he bruised me but said he never hit me so alls good.fast forward to Saturday and he beat me severely in the street after losing it because I dared question him on something.people stood and watched and he simply walked away and left me there.I fled and heard nothing since.im in absolute pieces because he hasn’t tried to contact me but why do I care about the vile piece of shit.Im sat here broken inside and out crying over this loser who made false promises and lied over and over and in my shame I’ve tried to text and ring him and it’s him blanking me,what the hell is wrong with me?? I hate myself for being so weak but I’m obsessing over what he’s doing and with who,I’m a mess xxx

Maybe it is but at least you’re alive

I will do the freedom program online just thought I could do it as a group like it would be more therapeutic x I’m off to sign up right now

Just wanted to update everyone who’s interested,the lowlife managed to ring my new landline number and let’s just say I saw him for what he is,after all the pleading and crying and begging his mask slipped because I wouldn’t accept his apology and he became annoyed the nerve I have since unplugged landline and binned the phone he cannot contact me any other way and I will never ever go back to the drug dealing woman beater,Thankyou all xxxxx

Does he know where you live?
I would report him for ringing your house and put this to bed permanently so to speak . They wil arrest him ahainn

OP congratulations on your boy passing his exams. Think really hard about your kids right now. Imagine a knock on the door...them answering...police telling them this guy has killed you. Not an expert but I think that strangling STRONGLY PREDICTS THE PERSON KILLING THEIR PARTNER. Think of the nice lives your kids could have if their mum is there, proud of them, loving them. Perfect or not, they NEED YOU and you will not ever recovrr if you lose them. They will not ever recover if they lose you. You are IMPORTANT AND IRREPLACEABLE TO THEM. Love yourself a little, momma?

Op

If you mean what you say you would actually have called the police to say he has breached his terms?

How on earth did he get your new number?

I can’t say he has breached his terms because I agreed to stay away from him and I didn’t,I am not losing my kids just to have him locked up.hell fuck up and hit someone else sooner or later

I'd be checking out my loved ones for whoever has given him a new mobile number for you as well as a newly installed landline number.

He got my number from my friend,she didn’t know what he’d done and I didn’t want anyone to know.He is virtually unable to contact me now unless he travels 200 miles to my home which he is too lazy to bother doing

No you tell them you changed your number and he’s been deceptive getting it from an unwitting friend and called you. You don’t tell them about the assault.

Change your landline , change your mobile. Change your kids numbers if he has them. If he wants to get to you bad enough he will travel

Yeah I meant for calling you on the landline not the assault

Why aren’t yo reporting him for calling you on the landline?

Your approach just makes a joke of the restraining order and shows him and me you aren’t really afraid of him contacting you or showing up at your home

He lives 200 miles away and doesn’t drive,he’s a lazy bastard so no I’m not afraid he’ll just show up,I’m haooy that he can’t contact me.the landline phone has gone I never used it anyway only because it came with virgin,I’m just keeping my mind busy and trying to forget the “good” times ie none existent.He is so fucking deluded it makes me angrier by the day what a fucking vile pig he is

Plus I have no proof he rang my landline,

You only had the landline for 2 days so should be able to get a refund.

A refund?