How much input does your DP give re:style/clothing

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Something bothered me the other day. I wore some workout type clothes out to go to the shops with DH. Later that day he said "let's work on getting you some dresses" I have come to realize my DH is subtley controlling in many ways and this felt along those lines although he is a snappy dresser and definitely into fashion.

I just wondered how much input your DP's give you re: fashion/clothes/hairstyle etc.?

My dad is the sort that wouldn't notice a thing and isn't at all concerned with fashion but my DH is quite concerned with appearance and being stylish.

I’ll ask his opinion on things and he genuinely likes clothes shopping, he even helped choose my wedding dress!
However ‘we need to work on getting you some dresses’ sounds very controlling.

None at all.

If I'm wearing something a little too revealing, say short shorts or a boobtube (which is never!) Then he might say, "ooh I can see your bum, or that's a little see through" -which im thankful for- but would never ever make me change what I was wearing.

None, other than to say ooh that's nice if I wear something new.

My DH is happy to come clothes shopping with me. I will ask his opinion, style,colour. He would never tell me what to wear or buy.

The only comments DP ever make about my appearance are the odd 'you/that looks nice' if I've got something new in or made more effort than usual.

He has never ever commented about what I should/ shouldn't wear.

How much input? None whatever.

He's the sort of person who will say "Is that new?" when I'm wearing something I've had for ages and he's seen several times before.

He will usually give an opinion, sometimes I will ask if I'm not sure about something. He would never suggest I dressed differently or try to change my style (if I had one). He however likes me to go shopping with him as he likes some help

My DH notices if I wear something new (doesn't always say he likes it!) and will sometimes say he likes x

Fat finger, sorry: My DH notices if I wear something new (doesn't always say he likes it!) and will sometimes say he likes item X if I've dragged it out of the back of the wardrobe. He's never suggested I should wear more of something or change my style.

Oh schnitzel I thought you were giving me a x

If he likes something he'll mention it. I know that some of my outfits are of a style he doesn't think suits me, but he doesn't comment. Or if I say "not your kind of thing is it?" he'll say it doesn't matter because if I like it/am comfortable then that's all that matters

Absolutely none, but even he would question me wearing working clothes to go shopping

Other than tell me I look nice no my husband wouldn't comment.

I rarely ask his opinion as it's pointless, everything is always fine or nice. I'm also not sure I really care.

I give him opinions, like he had new jeans on today and said when I was driving "I think myjeans are too short for me" which gave me the proper giggles as I glanced down when I was driving. He then proceeded to get out the car and ask if I thought they were too short, which they weren't, they just ride up when he sits, probably as they are stiff and new, and hes now all bemused.

However he has some shocking dress sense, has a penchant for grey shirts which with his grey hair look awful, so I have to try to talk him into a blue or pink one.

So in reality I'd probably say something like your husband did, but he wouldn't say it to me.

I had friend who's partner used to pick her clothes and buy them- I find that weird!! I think men generally say you look nice (even if you don't ) and leave it at that. I would expect DH to tell me if it looked awful tbf but women generally have more of an idea themselves. My DH and sister always have different opinions- I trust my sister!

"would question me wearing working clothes to go shopping"

Workout leggings and stretchy top not appropriate in the supermarket?

did you mean workOUT or workWEAR? because I'd happily wear gym clothes to the supermarket, but if I was in manual trades I wouldn't expect to wear a knackered old t-shirt and shorts plus a utility belt.

WorkOUT

Gym clothes

"I had friend who's partner used to pick her clothes and buy them- I find that weird!!"

So would you say he was controlling or was that just an arrangement that worked for them?

"let's work on getting you some dresses"

This is the kind of thing I say to my execs
I.e.
"let's work your time keeping”
"let's work on getting your excel skills up to speed"

You are not his employee.
Fuck that shit.

We generally only compliment each other or offer an opinion if solicited. So I might say I’m not keen on a particular pair of shoes or he might say he likes my red dress more than the blue.

I'd say he was controlling OP. Doesn't sound like an arrangment that "works for them" sounds like he's a twat

My DH might occasionally say "i like your tshirt" but that's it. The same sort of thing i'd say to him sometimes.

My dps love language is gifts. Probably 50% of what he gives me is clothes.

But he's never said anything along the lines of him wanting to buy me so and so type clothing... He more keeps an ear pricked for things I want to get but can't afford. Or when I have PMT he might buy me a slouchy t-shirt that says something funny. When I get home from work he reminds me to take my bra off and also reminds me that he doesn't care if I keep it off to go to the shop etc!! He wants me to be comfortable and feel good, that's it.

I would be really sad if he started to want me to dress in a certain way. There's something odd about wanting your partner to "appear" a certain way. That feels like the opposite of love.

And my dp does comment on my clothing - exclusively positively - including when I am wearing period pants, an old nightie and a giant fluffy dressing gown.

When I get home from work he reminds me to take my bra off WTF?