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Does your dh put an x at end of messages to male friends?

70 replies

dailyfailnotwelcome · 08/08/2018 20:45

I noticed a message pop up on my dh's phone last week and it was from his male friend. Friend put an x at the end of his message. I was surprised but said nothing to dh.

Now I've just received a text from my dh about arrangements with friend. It was sent to me in error. Of course there was an x at the end of it. Dh then sent me a text to say oops sent to you by mistake.

Is this normal guys?

OP posts:
FiestaThenSiesta · 08/08/2018 20:46

No

springmachine · 08/08/2018 20:48

Occasionally (for very close male friends)

Or loads of 'x's if I'm writing messages on his behalf

user1486076969 · 08/08/2018 20:51

I have no idea as we don't see each others texts

Tunnocks34 · 08/08/2018 20:52

Depends on the man. My OH puts no kisses to anyone, male, female, me. His male best friend, who is also my very, very good friend, puts kisses, emojis and sometimes a ‘love you’ at the end of his texts.

TokyoSushi · 08/08/2018 20:58

Nope

RatRolyPoly · 08/08/2018 21:00

I don't think it's all that "out there". Is there anything else you're worried about?

MsHomeSlice · 08/08/2018 21:02

so your dh is sending messages with an x to strangers, and mistakenly sends one in error to you with an x?

iffy AF if he doesn't normally sign off that way imo.

pinkhorse · 08/08/2018 21:09

No mine doesn't.

MeMyselfand · 08/08/2018 21:12

Mine does to friends. I don't think it's that big a deal, it started as a joke now they all do it to each other

StrawberryLaces0 · 08/08/2018 21:12

Don't know...but on FB I see some male friends send x in their comments. They are def straight. And say 'love you buddy'. Depends how emotional they are as a person.

ASqueakingInTheShrubbery · 08/08/2018 21:13

DH doesn't, BIL, who is much more 'unreconstructed man' in many ways, does. Oldest and best male friends who I've known since childhood, 2/3 don't. Friend from work who I get on really well with but am not that close to, does. I know enough blokes that do, that on its own it wouldn't ring alarm bells.

CantankerousCamel · 08/08/2018 21:13

My husband doesn’t

But his 25 year old colleague does. Is it a generational thing?

WeakAsIAm · 08/08/2018 21:18

Ye my husband and his best friend quite often put kisses and love you.🤮🤮 I know it's genuine they say it in person to each other when I pick them up from nights out . Sad but true 😬

ZanyMobster · 08/08/2018 21:23

Yeah DH occasionally does with his best friends, they have been mates since school and they are now 50. Mainly if sending a soppy message ie birthday thank yous etc

booboo24 · 08/08/2018 21:26

My dh accidentally put 3 x's to a male colleague not that long ago, he just did it without thinking as he was talking to me at the same time! He has not lived it down yet! One of his best friends always puts a x on the end of his texts to him though, and while he doesn't put one back, he never makes a comment on it. They are mid-40's. Is there anything else that raises your suspicions?

Bordercollies · 08/08/2018 21:28

My DH does but only to his best friend from school. Theyre not shy about randomly telling each other they love each too Smile. It seemed odd to me at first but they do love each other and theyre not afraid to say it! I put kisses on texts to some of his friends and some of my male friends but not to all my female friends. Depends on the relationship (and if they have put a kiss first Grin)

lunatunes · 08/08/2018 21:30

Mine doesn't to friends that are male or female.

Original poster
dailyfailnotwelcome · 08/08/2018 21:31

Thanks so much for all the replies. I have seen texts to his friends before and there has never been an x at the end. This is the first time and it felt very strange to think someone other than me would be getting an x. I have just had a conversation with him about it and he said this friend (who is a new friend of his and yes is gay) always puts x's in messages to him so he replied with an x back to be friendly.

I guess time will tell if there is anything more to this but for now I don't think there is. Thanks everyone.

OP posts:
chattyemma · 08/08/2018 21:32

Once but he was very drunk

ProfessorMoody · 08/08/2018 21:34

My husband and his friends do, mid thirties.

TroysMammy · 08/08/2018 21:39

My DP has 2 close friends from childhood and the 3 of them end texts with a x. They hug and kiss when they meet which is very infrequent and they put love you at the end of texts.

TroysMammy · 08/08/2018 21:42

My DP and friends are mid 50's.

Proseccopanda · 08/08/2018 21:49

Yes, as a piss take.

Notquiteagandt · 08/08/2018 21:58

If its something heart felt or serious he does ie. Friends mum passed last week so replied to text about funeral with a kiss.

But normal day to day no. But if its situatiom you would hug them then probally yes.

Jupiter9 · 08/08/2018 22:22

Dailyfailnotwelcome good luck x