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Does your dh put an x at end of messages to male friends?

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dailyfailnotwelcome · 08/08/2018 20:45

I noticed a message pop up on my dh's phone last week and it was from his male friend. Friend put an x at the end of his message. I was surprised but said nothing to dh.

Now I've just received a text from my dh about arrangements with friend. It was sent to me in error. Of course there was an x at the end of it. Dh then sent me a text to say oops sent to you by mistake.

Is this normal guys?

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Lemonyknickers · 09/08/2018 09:06

Yes. All his friends do. DH also ends phone calls to his male BFF with Love You

trojanpony · 09/08/2018 09:33

Nope.

My first thought was the same as crispy but only because from your posts you sound like you have sensed something is off.

sprinkleofsunshine · 09/08/2018 09:35

Yes sometimes, don't see an issue with it myself.

Paddley · 09/08/2018 09:37

Your latest post explains why this happened OP, sounds reasonable to me.

eyycarumba · 09/08/2018 09:37

OH does with certain friends. I only do it to friends who send it me, I wouldn't read too much into it

TastelesslyDone · 09/08/2018 09:42

I do with some (admittedly younger) male friends, mostly mirroring their behaviour to be honest, though not really with the ones I’ve known since before texting was a thing. I’m late thirties and male x

dirtybadger · 09/08/2018 09:45

His explanation makes sense to me. Signing off with "x" is almost just punctuation to a lot of people. I see people put "x" after Facebook comments in really weird contexts (like argumentative ones or to strangers on selling pages). His new friend probably does it to everyone.

What made you suspicious it wasn't innocent?

ChanklyBore · 09/08/2018 09:49

Good Lord. Why the fuss? It’s a letter!

People add xxxs to their messages to me all the time. At work. At home. Opposite sex. Same sex. Friends, kids, colleagues. Xxxxs on texts. Xxxxs on emails. I don’t think even half of them think of them as kisses anymore, because most of them wouldnt physically kiss me! I think for some people it’s the way to end a text or email, either an automatic sign off or something they just add to show it’s the end. Almost like punctuation.

I really think you are overthinking this.

Thursdaydreaming · 09/08/2018 09:51

If it's a new friend it's a bit weird. Does this friend definitely exist, ie, have you met him. OP is your concern that it's really a women saved a man's name, that your husband is having an affair with this man, or that your husband is just acting weird?

Barbaro · 09/08/2018 10:05

If he does it normally on texts to you, then it may just be a habit. A colleague of mine at work was texting me about an issue at work and at the end sent 'I love you xxx' which I found very weird until he replied quickly with 'sorry auto pilot from talking to my wife'. He didn't mean to do it, just wasn't thinking.

However if you don't know the friend, be a bit wary as it may be a woman saved as a man's name as others said.

notagain123456 · 09/08/2018 15:46

my husband does on all messages to men, women etc. Its just who he is and there is nothing in it. If i forget to put kisses to him he asks where they are.

Northernparent68 · 09/08/2018 17:44

I feel sorry for your husband if he’s subject to this much scrutiny.

WhatWouldCoachBombayDo · 09/08/2018 17:54

Yes my DH does to the odd person male or female. Just a singular X to note that's the end of the message generally.

His close friends well that's a whole new level of weirdness they often send the kiss emoji amongst other random things to wind eachother up.

Me and DH send a shit load at the end of our messages like this " xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx"

At first 5 years ago it was a joke and now it's just "stuck" haha and every now and again one of our autocorrects do it to a friend, or worst recently I sent it to my male boss who is married and I immediately had to text back saying "so sorry for all the kisses, in joke between me and the husband and autocorrect fail, so sorry x" he just replied "weirdo X" so it was alright in the end 😂

Anon90 · 09/08/2018 18:13

No and he finds it odd that anyone does it at all.

My ex has put an x out of habit to his mates before. Legitimate friends. And my best friends fella gets her to message his mates for him and she always puts an x from him to his mates lmao.

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom · 09/08/2018 18:22

Mine doesn't put kisses on the end of texts to anyone...

sar302 · 09/08/2018 18:59

Ha. Yes to his best friends. And if he's texting me at the same time, he has been known to accidentally send them xxx 😄

MedicinalGin · 09/08/2018 19:05

Mine does and his friends do too- they’ve always done this and I think it’s quite sweet. He is mid thirties.

Madmarchpear · 09/08/2018 19:08

My brother has done this for years in friends with texts in an ironic way. I wouldn't think much of it.

PolkadotsAndMoonbeams · 09/08/2018 19:38

I know my brother and his friends do. And I'm in a few group chats (mixed sex) where men will, even if the question is aimed just at other men.

I think it's not that unusual — the male friends I have generally started putting kisses on messages before I did. I'll reply with a kiss or two if somebody sends one at the end of their message. The one who sends xxxx only gets xx back though, four is over the top!

IceCreamSunday87 · 09/08/2018 21:48

Mine does, but only to his very old/close friends that have known each other since school.

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