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Not that into me - proud that I dumped him!

59 replies

Namila · 03/08/2018 19:54

So following up from another thread about a guy whom I had been seeing for nearly 2 months was still on Tinder. Seeing him was making me feel very stressed but I talked myself into giving him the benefit of the doubt and see how things went.

Today was the first time in 3 weeks we were both in town. He had asked me out for dinner tonight 3 days ago. This morning he said he could not wait to see me.

Today at 4pm he texted me saying that actually, he had forgot he had a dinner with friends, but he would text me after dinner and what were my plans for tonight anyway? Confused

He wasn't even apologetic. I told him things aren't working for me so we should leave it here.

I feel proud of myself for being able to see the signs of a half-interested man early on, and having the spine to act on those signs even though I really like him. Only a couple of years ago I would not have been able to see and do that.

"If it does not feel right, it isn't right."

OP posts:
ConfusedWife1234 · 03/08/2018 19:57

Well done! Flowers

Chocolatecoffeeaddict · 03/08/2018 20:00

What was his reaction to you dumping him? That will tell you everything, but you did the right thing.

HaroldsSocalledBluetits · 03/08/2018 20:00

Nice one. Now enjoy your evening, whatever you do with it, safe in the knowledge that you're not spending it with a bellend.

Happyhippy45 · 03/08/2018 20:00

Well done!

Smellbellina · 03/08/2018 20:01

Good for you!

Elllicam · 03/08/2018 20:02

Good for you.

MadamBatty · 03/08/2018 20:04

Well done, be prepared for ‘but I do really like you’ to keep you on the hook

Northernpowerhouse · 03/08/2018 20:04

Well done! Watch out for him trying to reel you back in. Make sure you are too busy with your friends/ activity of choice to even be bothered.

surlycurly · 03/08/2018 20:05

Go you. Too many men that want to keep you on the back burner. Glad you feel you're worth more; you are!

Namila · 03/08/2018 20:06

I texted him 20 mins ago, no reaction so far. He is a proud type, so not expecting any pleading to be honest.

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Gretagumbo · 03/08/2018 20:10

Good for you! X

HollowTalk · 03/08/2018 20:13

If he says, "But I still really like you," just reply, "Then I'm sorry for your loss."

Grin
guccihandbag · 03/08/2018 20:15

Well done, you should be proud of yourself. You deserve better.

AnyFucker · 03/08/2018 20:17

Perfect.

Pebbles16 · 03/08/2018 20:38

Well done.

Whocansay · 03/08/2018 20:39

He wanted a booty call after dinner.

There should be an arsehole smiley for precisely this kind of occasion.

Bullet dodged!

NorksAreMessy · 03/08/2018 20:40

Yay! Stay strong

Namila · 03/08/2018 20:44

He wanted a booty call after dinner.

Precisely.

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eddielizzard · 03/08/2018 20:44

Well done!

Frankier88 · 03/08/2018 20:47

Awesome! Well done 👍👍Smile

Dieu · 03/08/2018 20:50

As we'd say in Glasgow, on yersel' hen!! (= good for you girl!)

RayM · 03/08/2018 22:10

Well done! 💪🏻

Namila · 03/08/2018 22:13

His reply:

"I am not sure what you mean about us not being on the same page, but if that is your decision it is okay. I actually really like you. Shame."

OP posts:
ShumpaLumpa · 03/08/2018 22:24

Sorry if this sounds crass, but did he think he would have to pay for dinner for both of you, so he just wanted the booty call without having to pay for dinner?

Not that I think you wanted him to pay for dinner, I'm just wondering if you knew how his toady mind works.

DisneyMice · 03/08/2018 22:30

Definitely don't reply or question your decision to dump! Stay strong!

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