Is he cheating or am I paranoid???

[Baggyb94]

Really hoping you lovely ladies can help .....

Bit of background info . Been with my OH 7 years TTC first baby.
In February I found messages on his phone to two different women . (Women one) he was asking if she wanted to be in his bed.
(Women two) He was asking if they could meet .
I asked him about these and he said it was just a joke so I let it lie

Weekend after he was messaging women 2 again . I blocked and deleted her number and blocked her on his FB only to find a few days later she had created a group on fb and was messaging him again (only them two in group) so he’d unblocked her obviously I hit the roof.

Then women 3 he got his friend to take him 14 miles away to pick her up from a night out (found messages) he was telling her he cared about her ect

Tonight . Messaged women 3 asking why they didn’t go out of town ect and then checked she’d got home

Women 4 - I called him about 1am to see where he was and he said he was walking home , i offered to pick him up and he said he was nearly home 25 mins later he got in . It’s a 10 min walk . I asked him where he’d been and he just said out , said he walked home alone .
Something didn’t seem right so I looked at his phone now he’s passed out drunk .... women 4 messaged him saying thank you for walking me home (sent at 1.34) he replied it’s ok I will always look after you .

I hadn’t heard from him since 8:30 until I called him . But he’s been messaging women 3+4 since 9pm 😡

Sorry for the long post . I am the jealous type because I’ve been cheated on before and I’m very insecure about myself. He’s promised before he won’t message these girls again but here we are again . I’ve conftinted him tonight but he’s drunk and it will cause an argument so I’ve come to sleep on the sofa . I know before I see him in the morning he will have deleted the messages and deny it all

Some ridiculously all-or-nothing responses here.

But yes, if you want to support him, quite possible to work in your new job and support someone at a distance with text, email and phone - and then go back for a day or two for the funeral as it sounds like you know his family quite well.

It's not clear if you got back together; people are jumping to conclusions about that. I know it's possible to spend time with an ex and talk things over and support each other without getting back together being anywhere near the agenda.
But if you did... look at what he says he uses as a stress coping tactic. It's obvious from your first post that you want this to be a monogamous relationship. So what about when it's woman 5 because he still hasn't got over his dad's death, and woman 6 because he's stressed at work, and so on and so on.