So called 'concealed pregnancies'

[manymanymoons]

I hope someone has had this, or knows someone who has.

This happened to someone at work, he had a telephone call from his girlfriends headmistress informing him that his girlfriend had just had a baby! She was a PE teacher, put on a few pounds but her weight tended to fluctuate anyway, had been on the pill and continued to have periods right up until the birth.

yep, i know someone who was sitting in discomfort on her sofa when her midwife mother suggested perhaps she was going into labour. it must be a terrific shock. ignore everyone else and concentrate on you and your daugher. congratulations!

i was completely in denial about being pregnant as i'd had some unfortunate experiences before and didn't really want to believe in the whole thing in case it all went tits up again. i genuinely did not look pregnant until i began to accept that i was pregnant, iykwim, at around 7-8 months. plus i lost weight over the piece, rather than gained. not that i think that's the case here, but i know from experience that the mind can do amazing things to the body to protect it when it needs to. i was Very Grateful not to have to answer questions about my 'bump' for months on end...

How awful that people are being so unpleasant to you - about something that should be a joy to celebrate!

You will have a great story to tell your daughter because of all the drama. IME children just love to hear about their own childhood - because it was about them - regardless of what happened.

I can understand the feeling of it not being your own baby. Both my boys were born very quickly and (relatively) easily. 4 hours for the first and 3 for the second. First time around I genuinely found it very hard to believe that this baby was mine! Apparently in the US women who deliver so quickly can be offered counselling for this very reason.

I also felt - silly really - that I hadn't done childbirth 'properly' because I didn't have a horror story to share with the rest of my antenatal group.

I think you need to take some time with your baby and the rest of your immediate family and just try and enjoy being together. Don't beat yourselves up about it, just allow the process of becoming a family to happen. Send the silly HVs away. They're not helping you obviously.

And good luck! Enjoy your baby!

As others have said - sorry people are giving you a hard time. It does seem unbelievable but I've heard of it many times so it must be true! A girl who lived in the flat below me gave birth on the loo one day - had no idea she was pg.

It must take time to adjust and believe it's your baby but as the others have said make the story a special one, how she was a big surprise and she'll love it. All I ever tell my dds is how ill they made me so that's not nearly as cool as not causing any problems and then popping out!!

Enjoy your baby and ignore all the negative people!

thsi happened to teh Dw of a colleage of my DH. they had been TTC for years and had given up hope. she was in her 40s, had stomach cramps and went to hospital etc. they were shocked but overjoyed.

I dont knwo the DW but I underatdn that she was quite heavy anyway and she knew she was putting on weight but she didnt look PG. She works in teh fire service so I am sure soem of her colleageus woudl have noticed if it was that obvious.

Persoanally I just thought "what a wonderful thing to happen" and was very happy for them. I cant underatdn why pople would have such a negative reaction. after all, every pg is different, soem woemn are ill all the time, other have no synptoms at all

i always thought a "concealed" pg was when teh woman knwo she was pg but didnt tell anyone. I assumed it was when teh pg was unplanned or unwanted. Not the samne as teh OP at all!

My grandmother thought she was going through the change of life and had no period for 6 months.

She was pregnant.

And 47.

Not huge, either.

He was her sixth baby, delivered full term and healthy at home.

Now a physician, an anaesthetist.

MMM - lots of lovely posts here. Congratulations on the birth of your daughter

May I suggest that if HVs, GPs, friends etc start going on about how you couldnt have possibly not known....start yawning wildly...they may get the message sooner or later

Congratulations! So glad to hear your dp is supportive. Must have been quite a shock for both of you. How old is your little one?

My aunt didn't know she was pregnant. The first my mum knew of it was when my uncle knocked on their door asking to borrow some babygrows! That was over 30 years ago. Some people thought my aunt knew of the pregnancy and chose to conceal it but she insists she didn't know.

Having been pregnant twice myself, I find it amazing that people can not know! I was big both times. A friend of mine got to 7 months without realising. I find is fascinating.

Congratulations to you and I hope you are over what must have been a massive shock!

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Oh God, Sorry I've somehow managed to post on the wrong thread! Sorry!