So called 'concealed pregnancies'

[manymanymoons]

I hope someone has had this, or knows someone who has.

what do you mean?

Eh?

Not sure what you mean tbh
I know a couple of people who didn't know they were pg until fairly late on, is that what you are looking for? Or are you on about hiding a pregnancy?

A ptrgnancy, which develops until full term without the mother being aware.

I just can't understand that, I really can't. Unless the mother's really huge and suffers from permanent heartburn and pelvic pain in any case.

is that "concealed" (ie hidden)??
no personal experience but have read / heard about people going into labour without realising they were pregnant....
why do you ask?

it happens. I've known someone get to 6.5 months and not know. Largely because she only ever had a period once a year.....and she was young-ish.

It happened on eastenders didn't it

Well I don't know about going to term but...

my Mum thought she was menopausal and find out she was nearly 6 months pg (she was 42)

A friend of a friend went to 8 months, still having periods, didn't put on much weight and didn't look pg.

Why do you ask?

I know of someone to whom this happened. I don't know the couple personally - just through a previous work colleague.

She went into labour not knowing she was pregnant. It was their second or third child I believe too, so she had been pregnant before and known about it. But that's about all I know.

why do you start this anyhoo? Do you have some surprise news for us?

And I mean fully unaware. And not showing many physical signs either. Is it a purely psycological thing,or can iy happen that a baby is born fully unexpected, having not kicked moved or caused more subtle pregnancy symyoms? ?

Rightly speaking a concealed pregnancy is just that....a pregnancy the mother is aware of but doesn't share with anyone else.There are usually social or emotional/psychological reasons why the mother conceals the pregnancy, or there may be mental illness or drug and alcohol misuse.It is very rare, and most likely in our culture to happen with the very young, especially where the pregnancy is due to intra familial sexual abuse.

Yes, I know someone who it happened to - she literally had no idea she was pregnant. It was her third child too. It does happen.

i know someone this happened to

appendicitis turned out to be a little boy!

And I ask, because it has happened to me. And after I and my DH got over the shock, and dealt with my fanilies reactions,and friends we didn't even want to tell. Well now we are getting a bit of nastiness, accusations that it would be impossible to carry a child and not know. ETC
But I had a baby before and it was a hard pregnancy, but this time I had none of the sympyoms or feelings and I realllly had no idea. I was taking the pill every day and had periods as normal.

gosh what di you get many moons?? how old now!

Wow manymoons, congratulations on your surprise was it recently?

Otter, my Mum thought she had appendicitis but thankfully she was 6 months pg not full term!

Congratulations MMM. Sorry to hear you're getting a negative reaction. It's a shame but I can understand how people can find it hard to accept something that they don't fully understand. But as I say, I know of someone to whom it happened, and she was completely unaware right up until going into labour.

I can't remember if it was on this site or another, but I remember a poster who didn't know she was pregnant, until she went into labour

A friend of mine went to about 5 months not knowing - in fact, she had booked herself a doctor's appointment because she thought there was something wrong with her - feeling tired, sick, etc. She'd had 3 or 4 miscarriages previously so had kind of convinced herself she would never have a child, but now she has a bouncying 4-year-old DD.

But this does happen, and it's not true that the woman is delusional or decietful. Usually it's someone who has an irregular menstrual cycle, or is pretty hefty (or in one case I read of, extremely fit with extremely strong stomach muscles that stopped her developing a bump).

Sorry to hear that people are being so horrible Manymoons. And congratulations!!
On a practical note, you know what happened. They don't. Don't bother trying to convince them and start to cultivate an attitude of slight disdain for their lack of empathy and understanding. It isn't your fault if they are incapable of expanding their horizons to take in new experiences - try to feel sorry for them instead.

A baby girl. Backache led to ambulance, led to me on the floor and a baby girl, in 5 minutes (nothing close to my first labour, which was many hours of aches and almost 1/2 hour pushing))
My close family and friends are suggesting that I have pnd, but ,my G.P says not, regrdless, so this can't be the reaaon.

I just remember stroking my stomach and feeling every little kick and roll with my first baby, and I had nothing of the sort this time.

Oh I'm so glad I didn't post then before reading the posts I'd missed - I thought you meant we were being horrible Rosa! Actually, I probably was, so sorry if I offended you Manymanymoons- I didn't know you were talking about YOU. Congratulations btw! (I reckon this is the only way I'd have another - I'm not keen to do it deliberately after my last experience).