I am 7 months pregnant and my husband says hes not as happy as he used to be and wants to be by himself.

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I am 7 months pregnant and my husband had been acting very distant with me and weird. The way he was acting made me feel like he didn't love me anymore and was making me act crazy. I even asked him if he was cheating on me. He finally broke down and told me that hes just not as happy as he used to be and that for right now he would just like to be by himself. For the past 5 days he has spent the night at a friends house. I miss him so much! I think he is sort of stressing out about becoming a parent for the first time, as this is our first child. We have been together for almost 4 years and he has always talked about having children with me! I am hoping once the baby is born he will change. Once he sees all the love and that we can be a family. I feel he is depressed and is struggling with the fact he is going to be a parent and loose some of his freedom. I am just feeling alone and sort of depressed. Has anyone went thru a experience like this?

A man who's having a go about another man's poor behaviour says he's being a little bitch.

Did I actually read that?

Life is full of big events, do you seriously fancy being deserted to deal with them alone every time they crop up? You deserve a lot more than this. I woo of never forgive him for leaving me at 7m pregnant, a 'wobble' would never excuse it

Yes wagil that was a bit nails down a blackboard for me too.

OP how are you? Have you talked to him yet?

It's normal to be scared about being a parent for the first time. You'll have this little life depending on you for survival. I was scared and excited...but running off never crossed my mind.

Even if he comes back tomorrow apologising... what happens with the next big event?

What happens if God forbid..you get I'll... or a family member does. You can't rely on him. Intentionally or not...he doesn't have your back.

I'd lose faith and trust in a man like this and be waiting for the next time he was going to bail on me.

Sorry OP. Either an OW or you are married to a manchild. Either way it doesn't look good.

How are you today OP? Have you been in contact with him?

A clever cheat isn't going to leave evidence in his phone.

He'll have an app/another phone or there are numerous ways to keep an OW hidden if he's having an affair.

I find his behaviour selfish and immature. He's left you at a vulnerable time...it would make me scared to trust him going forward.

In addition..hoping he'll change his mind when the baby comes is risky.

The baby brings on new challenges to both parents...especially for the one who carried and experiences body changes. I don't think most men appreciate this at all.

You need him to be supporting... not hoping and cajoling him.

Who will be at the birth with him being so flaky? I suggest you get someone on standby as he's shown you can't rely on him.

Sorry... this appeared at the top of my feed.

Didn't mean to resurrect an old thread.

cambshusband...I’m a woman and I need lots of space and time alone, otherwise I get cranky.

Not a single man I’ve ever had a relationship with has needed as much time alone as me. I have zero desire to spend all my time with friends too.

I honestly don’t think men need more time alone than women - I think that’s a myth that’s convenient for too many men. Needing time alone has nothing to do with being female/male - it’s more of a personality thing.

Op - I’m sorry your H is being such a dick. He needs to grow up - he willingly went ahead with trying for a baby!

Cambshusband, I need lots of personal space as do my siblings (brother and sister), one has a separate house from partner. OP, I don't think it's another woman, but, from my own experience, I would say it is indicative of a tendency to go AWOL at stressful times, e.g. International work assignments when DC starting school, sitting public exams or going to university etc. You will need to be very self reliant if you want to continue.