Anyone else hiding in their bedroom?

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Well my son has just smashed up the shed and my ex who is here to watch the football has screamed at me that I am a moron and a stupid fucking cunt. All over a game of fucking football

And this is the last time he is in your house? Abuses you? Encourages your son to act like the dickhead his father so clearly is?

Can you lock the doors and bar them, so that none of the drunks can get in?

And next time tell him to watch the match in his own house.

Never put yourself in this situation again. Instant football ban in the house given that behaviour.

Why are you allowing him in your house in the first place?

And your son is not particularly lovely if he smashed up a shed in a drunken rage over a football match. If he behaved that way around a girlfriend or children he could be done for domestic abuse.

Why are you letting your aggressive ex hang around your house? If your son is old enough to drink surely he is old enough to se his Dad some where that is not your home.

Why is he still there, can't he go home and get his sons friends to go home.

OP is probably intimidated by son & ex. I wouldn't like to be her telling a drunken ex to leave. Even the son's friends round her house drinking is awful.

I only hope they get raucous enough (not to point of harming OP) that their noise will cause neighbours to call police. Smashing up a shed surely isn't a quiet activity..

Hey guys cut the OP some slack... she came on here upset looking for warmth and understanding....

We do not know that her son has done this before - it may be the first time and if he does fix it, he will have learnt a valuable life lesson....

We don't know the full story about the Ex.... and please please keep yourself safe and ensure you have strong boundaries, you do sound as if you are vulnerable at the moment and I hope you are not....

Shit wrong thread sorry!!!!!!! I have reported my own post.

SORRY

Hang on, why is your ex in your house? Why is he outside with your son's friends when your son has gone to bed? What kind of set up do you have?

One of many tonight. I'm feeling lucky, but so helpless on behalf of all those women.

Don't wait til tomorrow. He's abusing you and you need to make sure you're safe. I shared a house with my ex for a couple of nights and then completely out of the blue, on what had been quite a good day in my view, he tried to kill me while I was asleep.

Get rid and stay safe. Call the police to help you.

Thank you. I feel better now having ranted on here. It is my house now - although was the family home. He comes regularly to see our two boys and it is mostly OK. No point in trying to chuck him out now. I wont see him again until he goes tomorrow.

Please get the police to get your ex out. Your son is learning from him and in a way, you. Violent drunkenness shouldn't be tolerated and although I can understand your reluctance, I think putting up with it from your ex is showing your son how men can behave around us.

Bloody hell, Op - your son is not lovely. And why did you entertain the idea of having your abusive ex at yours in the first place? My dh went to the pub, had too many pints for a school night and came home with a kebab - yes, he's disappointed, yes, he's upset but he's managed to his normal lovely self. Don't let him stay!

There is a point. Showing you won't stand to be treated like this.
Never let him in again.
And deal with your son smashing stuff up. Unless you want him to follow in his father's footsteps.

Your son has gone to bed and your abusive ex is on your property drinking with your son's mates.

I must live in an alternate universe.

I'd call the police and have them escorted off my property.

I work in a police station. Not a police officer. Was shocked yesterday to here the pleas over the tannoy for additional volunteers for tonight. All rest day cancelled . Those not on response policing called to response for the evening... all to deal with the expectation of a 9000% increase in calls of DV... shocking

My son is a lovely boy and has apologised

None so blind as a mother and I am a mother, OP. Take another look at your son and see if you can get him some help. He obviously is taking after his father and he has no control over his anger. If he doesn't realise this he will end up hurting more than a shed and not everything can be repaired.

Op I think you need to work on some rules and boundaries here.

Your ex is your ex (and a violent dick head by the sound of things) and has no right to be in your house. Tell him that he can see his son elsewhere or at the very least stop him sleeping over.

Your son is in bed so his mates need to go home. It's your home/ garage not a bloody pub.

Stop letting these people walk all over you.

Can you lock the door as suggested? Is it an intergral garage, or just access via the front door? Either way, lock the door and call the police at the first sign of any aggression.

And WTAF is he there at all, does he not access to a TV? Put a stop to that PDFQ.

Once he’s gone make it clear to DS that apologising doesn’t make it okay. If he is actually remorseful he will never repeat the behaviour, will he?

fontofnoknowledge 9000% is that a typo or is that genuinely the increase?