Sat in my garden in this beautiful sunshine, alone! Anyone else out there feeling a little bit sorry for themselves?

[Bubblesandcake]

Or are you content (answer honestly) in the fact you have absolutely no plans this Saturday evening?
My dd's are at friends intil 8.30pm. They have been out since 2pm. I have been sat scrolling facebook- Instagram- mumsnet....
Recently single and feeling completely lost!
What do all you single mammas do on weekend days/evenings?

Hardest thing for me post break up is knowing stbexh is child free most of time, going out socialising, spending time with ow, enjoying his hobbies and enjoying a responsibility free life. Me on the other hand.....

So agree Strongsinglemama STBXH is loving his "single" life again with OW. When will l get my happy ever after

I have an idle husband and I want to go to exhibitions in London with folk who are interested in such things. Not have to drag him behind me and feel rushed. Bit of lunch. Wander about then go home.
Is anyone willing to chance it though with random people from MN?
as it stands he sleeps in Saturday and Sunday. Then he will ha eiitle maps al8ng the way.

Awful awful awful crushing loneliness today. Avoiding people at all costs though. In tears most of the day. Never felt like it before. Never suffered with my mr tsk health previously but wondering if this is something more serious, like depression.

*mental health

@lolaflores I would if I lived close enough.

I once invited someone I met on another forum to stay with me for a week - first time I met her was when I picked her up at the airport - we had a great week & still chat daily and need to organise another visit!

I’m going to meet a friend this evening but because of my low mood I suspect I will end up feeling sad, lonely and anxious.

Hopeless, I haven't been able to to articulate how I've been feeling since being left nearly 3 years ago, but you've summed it up perfectly.

I'm fine being on my own a lot of the time, but it'd be so lovely to have a DP to share some things with.

Moneyissue2....oh poor you...you sound very down. Do go and speak to your Gp you might benefit from a check over. Loneliness is wearing. Grinds you down. I have no words if comfort but as you can see you are not alone. Even an those who r with someone.

I've been on my own today too. Kids at friends, but too young to leave a door key with so have been homebound. Desperate for some adult conversation. Even thinking of old again 🙄.
Friends all happy marrieds. Feeling sorry for myself so eating sweets.

lolaflores I’m in London. Would be happy to wander around a gallery with you!

Want2beme there do seem to be a number of us with similar feelings. For me the nice weather/long evenings don’t help. It seems as if everyone and his dog is part of a happy couple (I know this is not the reality...).

Thank you lolaflores. I’m sorry others are suffering too. It’s horrible.
This has been creeping up on me over the last six months maybe even years if I’m completely honest.

I normally relish being alone, and I think I still like it, but today has been something else. I don’t think it’s related to being alone. I don’t know what it is but I can’t do anything today without breaking down.

money it does sound as if you should talk to someone (GP to start with?).
I’m sorry you’re feeling so awful. Has something happened? Or is it an anniversary of something?

Yes, Hopeless. I'm secretly looking forward to the nights drawing in, so that I don't have to witness the summer evening shenanigans in the pub opposite my house. What a sad state of affairs

What if we start a thread. Throw up ideas for expeditions for various parts of the country where folk can get to. We are all here and we can all help each other.
Or a thread to drop in and out of.
hopelesswithmoney if you ahve any suggestions what you would like to visit...let me know. Maybe we can rope others in.
Te thing about loneliness is that it takes your own efforts. But sometimes if you feel shit aobut yourself, the effort doesnt seem worth it. You have to make yourself matter. Its the nutrition you need for yourself and it does turn into a bad habit.
I would like to meet new friends and people but on my terms, not people who the kids know. My own friends as it were. I am't interested in my husbands friends. My old friends all live elsewhere. I don't work, I have some health issues.
I love my DH so much but he doesn't fulfill all I need in terms of entertainment or emotional things.

Thank you for your kind words hopelesswithnumbers.

There’s a series of minor issues that make me feel useless but I can normally bear these.

I can not drive and regularly rely on family members to run myself and my children around. I am in a love less and intimate less relationship and have been for 15 years. I have slept in the spare room for seven years. I’ve wasted these years of my life. I’ll never get them back. I am basically single and don’t earn much so my children go without or I incur a huge amount of debt. I’m in so much debt I’m suffocating. I can’t see an escape for any of this. And I can normally bear these things.

I’ve had a fear and gut wrenching dread that I might have something, health wise. This is a big thing that I feel I can’t push to the back of my mind for much longer. I’m so very very scared and if I’m right, which my symptoms are looking more and more likely, will be life changing and devastating and the implications immense. It’s something I need to find the courage to do. Everything is making today terrible, I feel like I have a heavy weight deep inside my chest. I can’t breathe properly and there’s absolutely no let up. The sun makes me feel depressed as does the neighbours laughter and the bird song.

So sorry to take the thread over!
You know when you keep on going and you don’t have time to think about the important things and everything is fine? It just feels like everything has now come to a head

Moneyissue2 Oh Lord above...I don't know what to sya. You have an enormous load on you rather than just feeling a bit alone.
You realy must speak to someone. Your family. Somone a bit closer than us on here. That is a huge amount of anxiety to carry about.
TOp of the list....divorce that sod. Seriously. YOur mood will lift instantly.
YOu will manage without. You will

Thanks lolaflores
To be honest I could walk out tomorrow and be fine, we exist as friends and that’s it, he’s not all bad really.

My health issue is the scary thing and having the courage to go to the doctors, again. I’ve been for a few of my symptoms seperately but they’ve been brushed off or misdiagnosed, I believe. Someone said something on a thread here a few months ago and it was like the final piece of a jigsaw slotting together. It’s such a scary dark place. Thank you for responding

Money I can understand your feelings about your health situation. It sounds really scary. In some ways it can seem easier to ignore these things but it does sound like a trip to the GP is a must.

Lolaflores ok shall I start a thread for combating lonely weekends?
CLAW - Combatting Loneliness At Weekends? (I love an acronym).

Yes. I'll be right over just as soon as I've eaten my fruit pastille lolly

The Hooded Claw? Bit of mystery

Lola I live in London and like exhibitions. Will PM you. I've been on my own to things but it's nice to make it more of a day out!

I've been really feeling my aloneness lately, have had weekends where I haven't spoken to anyone until I was back at work on Monday morning.

Batshitcrazy...super. that makes 3 of us I think. Anymore for Anymore?

I’ve started the other thread.

Batshit I have had weekends like that too.

I share a flat with a friend so there’s usually some interaction over the weekend, but he’s going away for 2.5 weeks in August and I’m rather dreading it.