Afternoon guys,
Quick run down of last nights events...
A few mates and their gfs came over to mine. Drink was involved. I’m not a massive drinker so I wasn’t past the point of not knowing what was going on.
One particular friend I got on very well with and recently it’s made his on and off gf challenge both of us and I’ve always said there is nothing going on which is the truth.
Anyway, i offered for my mate and his gf to stay and as the music was loud and all that I leant in and said this to him, the gf saw us chatting from outside and went bananas. Literally flipped out, managed to scuff me round the face. I do know how this probably looked from the outside and especially given the circumstances of their volitile relationship I shouldn’t have said anything to him about them staying, but she doesn’t live near me so I thought I was just being nice.
My mate picked up the gf and dragged her outside throwing her to the floor, she hit her head on some stones and there was blood everywhere, at that moment I just wanted to stop it All and see if she was ok. My mate just saw red and pushed me over shouting in my face he’s going to break my nose if I don’t leave her alone. I landed on my wrist which I’m going to have to have xrayed as it really doesn’t feel good.
He stormed off, gf was in a state, everyone left and somehow it was me and her left, I managed to calm her down and clean her up and we actually managed to have an adult conversation about it all. I apologised for what it looked like to her, she apologised for flipping out. We’re over it like reasonable people.
I then get phone calls this afternoon saying it’s all my fault I should have never gone near him, the gf is his gf not me, if I feel like that towards him (which I don’t) then I should stay away from him. He doesn’t want anything to do with me ever again, I’m every name under the sun. I made the gf feel uncomfortable even though I went out my way to talk to her and make an effort but apparently this was me being too friendly.
I feel pretty shit about the events and wish I’d said to her about staying it would have then all been prevented. But a silly argument turned very nasty very quickly. My mate literally turned on everyone, pushed my other friend and her bf to the floor which was so uncalled for when we were all just trying to get him away from the gf as she was sobbing on the floor bleeding.
Please just everyone remind me not to go out my way to help people again. It always comes back to bite me, I feel a kn*b for mentioning anything to him about staying.
And if I need a speaking to please feel free to have a go as I need a proper reilaty check.
Plus I need some advice on voilence.