Pushed over and now broken arm

[Sillysausage12345]

Afternoon guys,

Quick run down of last nights events...

A few mates and their gfs came over to mine. Drink was involved. I’m not a massive drinker so I wasn’t past the point of not knowing what was going on.

One particular friend I got on very well with and recently it’s made his on and off gf challenge both of us and I’ve always said there is nothing going on which is the truth.

Anyway, i offered for my mate and his gf to stay and as the music was loud and all that I leant in and said this to him, the gf saw us chatting from outside and went bananas. Literally flipped out, managed to scuff me round the face. I do know how this probably looked from the outside and especially given the circumstances of their volitile relationship I shouldn’t have said anything to him about them staying, but she doesn’t live near me so I thought I was just being nice.

My mate picked up the gf and dragged her outside throwing her to the floor, she hit her head on some stones and there was blood everywhere, at that moment I just wanted to stop it All and see if she was ok. My mate just saw red and pushed me over shouting in my face he’s going to break my nose if I don’t leave her alone. I landed on my wrist which I’m going to have to have xrayed as it really doesn’t feel good.

He stormed off, gf was in a state, everyone left and somehow it was me and her left, I managed to calm her down and clean her up and we actually managed to have an adult conversation about it all. I apologised for what it looked like to her, she apologised for flipping out. We’re over it like reasonable people.

I then get phone calls this afternoon saying it’s all my fault I should have never gone near him, the gf is his gf not me, if I feel like that towards him (which I don’t) then I should stay away from him. He doesn’t want anything to do with me ever again, I’m every name under the sun. I made the gf feel uncomfortable even though I went out my way to talk to her and make an effort but apparently this was me being too friendly.

I feel pretty shit about the events and wish I’d said to her about staying it would have then all been prevented. But a silly argument turned very nasty very quickly. My mate literally turned on everyone, pushed my other friend and her bf to the floor which was so uncalled for when we were all just trying to get him away from the gf as she was sobbing on the floor bleeding.

Please just everyone remind me not to go out my way to help people again. It always comes back to bite me, I feel a kn*b for mentioning anything to him about staying.

And if I need a speaking to please feel free to have a go as I need a proper reilaty check.

Plus I need some advice on voilence.

Op, I think it’s a shame pp feel the need to insult you. You had friends over, a few drinks and then 2 guests attacked you because of their misunderstanding. That’s not your fault. Don’t take any crap over it.

Have I missed if you’ve had an X-ray yet?

Get these people out of your life. You were a victim i this situation regardless if you speaking to him was perceived as something else, he was a guest in your house and you would be a bit odd not to speak to a guest? Maybe it would have been better to ask the gf but hindside is a fantastic thing really isn’t it.

Op, are you going to call the police? You must.

I'm a bit astounded at your comments throughout that sort of indicate you know he is violent, including towards his gf, but you have previously thought he was ok and a mate as he has been ok with you???

Wft???

I can't imagine having such a person as a friend.

Hope this isn't the norm in your circle if friends

Hope the arm is ok btw.

Agree with others that you must report this to the police. Aside from assaulting you, the GF is in an extremely vulnerable position and is in an abusive relationship. The police need to know that he is aggressive and violent towards women.

@redcherries where have pp insulted the op

So your friend assaulted his girlfriend and you in the same night, all because you offered for them both to stay at your house after a party

He sounds unhinged, block hIm and have nothing more to do with him, he’s no friend

Wonderful, the op has been called dysfunctional and told they all sound like 15 year olds. After being assaulted by 2 guests in her home, due to the guests drama, I think that’s pretty insulting.

It sounds like an episode from Eastenders. That's no way to live. Nor is it normal behaviour amongst 30 plus year olds.

A bit handy with his gf.

Why were you trying to be/continuing to be friends with a man who's physically violet & abusive to women?

Hope you've learned something from this.

Certainly won't insult OP.
It's amazing how violence from men has become so normalised and desensitised in our society.

describing a man who has violently assaulted you and another woman in your own home as "a bit handsy"

This type of behaviour is never acceptable or normal.
I would say you have immediate ground to evict him since he assaulted you.

Please call the police as he has committed a crime.

Go to the police and give them his phone. I bet there are some choice messages on there threatening his gf.

Thanks guys for the support, went a&e last night and I’ve got a small hairline fracture that should mend in its own without too much trouble.

I’ve spoken to him and he’s appoligised for speaking to me the way he did yesterday morning but still stands by the fact he can’t remember what happened.

I didn’t go into details with him, regardless of what I say he will have an answer and justification for his actions, which we all know where completely out of order. I told him I was on my way to hospital and he sounded panicked and asked why I was going, so I have him a brief explanation... maybe I should have told him straight “it’s because you pushed me over” but again I can’t be doing with the you did this i did that argument. He knows he was in the wrong, what is done is done now.

I’m going to move on, cut all ties, leave them to it and disappear for a while.

I need to tidy my house up first though