Please someone tell me I’m not crazy. My husband had a 3 month affair with a 40yo woman who has a child with her husband, who’s had the snip. Things are messy, to say the least, but DH has cut all ties with the other woman and is now confused over what he wants. She begged him to be with her, he stayed with me but says he needs to think.
Anyway, it occurred to me that she may be pregnant, so I asked him. He said no, she couldn’t be pregnant but I probed about what kind of contraception they used and it turned out they didn’t use any. She told him fertility ‘dips at 40’. So for two months in a row, they had pregnancy scares, her period came twice. He said he broached the subject a few times, she shrugged it off. I know this woman, her husband and child, we moved in the same circle. She is a planner, super organised with everything. I don’t believe she’d leave contraception to chance, especially when her husband has been snipped. In my mind, she was looking for a way out of her marriage and trying to trap my husband into leaving me. He says I’m being paranoid and refuses to believe she’d do such a thing.
I’d be quite prepared to move on from this affair business as we’ve been together for 14 years and happy most of that time. But it’s like DH is still stuck in his affair fantasy land and refusing to see what I see.
Honest opinions please, I can take it. Thanks!