Hi Ladies,
A little advice needed. I can answer my own question very easily but would like some other opinions.
Is Sexting cheating?
My situation is that I have been with my BF for 4 years. 12 months ago I caught him sexting another woman after I had an ectopic pregnancy and I was in hospital. It was only intuition that told me something was up so yes I snooped and found what I needed to. We live together so I left for a couple of weeks and when I went back I somehow managed to find forgiveness. I am a believer that we all make mistakes. Its taken 12 months to really get through it all but the last 12 months have not been bad for either of us.
Fast forward to a month ago and I my phone battery had died and I needed to check the time. As I clicked on his phone 4 messages flashed up with a womans face. It was general chit chat about the weather etc but only messages for her. He had deleted the message thread. When I asked him who it was he said he didnt know who it was and said "looks theres no previous message history and the number isnt saved" He even went as far as texting her to say who is this after I told him to. 30 minutes later he told the truth. He said its a friend and they just chit chat which honestly I am fine with. He said he had deleted the messages because he wanted to cut the friendship with her.
So I said ok, you know what it seems you are treating me as a fool. I want us to take a couple of weeks and really think about what we both want out of this relationship because even if she was just a friend you lied to my face and of course after last year this just brings up a big fat red flag again.
As I said we live together so I tool the other room for a couple of weeks and said to him lets talk in a couple of weeks for now I need some alone time.
Well you know what he did? Instead of taking sometime he registered on several dating apps. I only found this out because he left his google account signed into my laptop and his whole phone search history was there infront of my face.
I confronted him of course. He told me that it was all my fault and that he needed entertainment as I had pushed him away.
A few days later he broke down and told me he was so so sorry and he couldnt continue like this. He wants to get married, try for kids and this will never happen again.
I am stil at the house but we are more apart than ever. I have told him the only hope he has with me now is to go to therapy. He refuses and tells me no. He says people that go to therapy are either sick or have an addiction. I told him I think hes a little of both.
So were at a head, He wont go to therapy and I wont even listed to his sorry excuses until he does.
Of course im going to tell you the normal lines of he is really a good guy and im quite shocked at all this and I love him etc etc...
What do you think? Could you accept this?