To report or not?

[babycc29x]

My ex of 2 weeks domestically abused me twice. The first time got reported. He left me with a permanent scar. 2nd time he punched kicked me and choked me. Then raped me. I’m literally crying myself to sleep every night. The 2nd time happened 5 months ago I went to hospital as I thought there was damage to my ribs and back. I was given a number to phone to get a swab done for the rape but it rang out and I gave up.
I’m scared Incase he does this to someone else. I’m scared he will kill someone. Prob not the best thing I’ve done but I watched a programme of domestic abuse and everything in this programme he done 😭 he manipulated me, cheated on me, blamed me for everything, even made me get an abortion. He made me lie through my teeth to police to change my statement for him to get a lesser sentence.

womans aid will support you and victim support

I hope that you managed to escape this nightmare situation.

Please see a therapist who can help you cope with this. Find a decent local sharky lawyer pronto and find out how they can help you. Ask about child support and custody arrangements for any children. A good one can effectively handle the paperwork.

Believe me there is a lot of it.

You deserve better than this. Seriously. Contacting the police was a step in the right direction. Line up your ducks and leave with the children immediately.

Consider filing for divorce as well. Do you have any friends who can assist you or not? If so ask them for support and help. Telephone women’s aid. None of this is normal.

But I think that you already know that. Get out and do not look back again. Trust your gut feeling. Are you married or not? Keep a paper trail of communications with him too.

I’m 3 months out that relationship now. The police down south haven’t been helpful at all they r just apparently getting round to getting statements from my friend.

Police in Scotland r incredible can’t fault them. I honestly think he’s getting away with it all. But past few weeks I’ve been in a good place.

Go to counselling I have PTSD. Counselling has helped I either have the best days where I feel high as a kite or rock bottom there’s no in between sadly.

I’m trying to move home cause I don’t feel safe I need a fresh start as well

Thanks girls

Glad to hear that you've been in a good place!
I think a fresh start will do you the world of good xxx

Thanks @mrstobe90 I’ve honestly gave up with it and accepted he’s getting away with it. As they rnt even taking my friends statement even though she’s phoned for 2 weeks.

The way I see it there’s a light at the end of the tunnel now. I’m getting in a happier place. Feeling more positive.

One of my friends actually said, “if ur accepting he’s getting away with it, the universe will reward u for the positivity, U might one day get that phone call - He’s banged up!! Karma!!”

😂😂😂 if only it worked that way.

But yea I’ve gave up and accepting it and I can honestly say I’m happier. Even when I realised this morning is the years anniversary of the abortion 💔 actually lit a candle and said “mummy’s sorry jelly bean” looking up to the sky. But it was for the best. Xx

I'm really happy for you! You've gone through so much and it's amazing to see you rising above it all!
Your little girl has one incredible mummy!

Listen to your fiend as she's probably right :) let the universe work it's magic. Eventually his world will come crashing down around him!!

Look after yourself xxx

Thank you so much @mrstobe90 and honestly think talking on here, to my counsellor and even to a wee woman in my work who is a wee ray of sunshine has helped me so much 💕!!

Everyone of u have told me I’d see that light at the end of the tunnel. honestly think it was just accepting everything has been the best closure I’ve had xx