Married with a boyfriend, How to end it.

[amylou1991]

Im 27 I have been married 2 years together for 8, me and hubby were going through a really bad patch 5 months ago, I feel for a guy at work (i have never done anything like this before) i got strong feelings for him.

Hubby moved away to work and i would see him a few days out of the week, I told the other man it was over, i have been in a relationship with him for 4 months, Neither of them are aware of this.
I need to end things With him I know i can not leave my hubby.

The other man has really let me in, he has such strong feelings and i have not helped with telling him i feel the same. I love them both but hubby a bit more,

I will have to deal with the guilt of what i have done forever but how can i end it with the other man with out hurting him. He deserves so much better, they both do. But i can let my hubby go.

If it was a man cheating, everyone would say "the wife has the right to know", how is it different when it's the wife cheating?

You're not the woman your husband thought you were. Your entire marriage is now based on a lie so he has the RIGHT to decide on whether he wants to work through it or go his own way.

If you don't tell him, your whole marriage will be false and that's just cruel.

I don't think you should tell your DH, just dump the BF as kindly as you can, assuming that's what you want?

Crikey the judgemental attitudes of people on this thread are awful. You are being 'shamed'and I am uncomfortable with that, as humans we are all flawed. You did something 'wrong' and you have acknowledged that, but it doesn't make you a bad person per se. No advice re your situation, just please do not take these nasty messages as 'truth' people have but a snapshot of your life and do not know you.