When is it ok to not want sex

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I have 3 children 9, 7 & 1. My DH and I have had sex twice this week so far. (Well at the weekend) He's now text me saying he would fancy me in lingerie for sex tonight. He text me at sports day. I was running around after my toddler whilst trying to watch my 7 year olds races. I was irritated by his texts as feel like he's a bit full on and he has a tendency to sulk if I'm not up for it.
It's now resulted in some responses from him saying he feels demoralised/I'm boring. We've been together a long time and this has been a recurring problem. I feel that he's only content if I'm shagging him at every request in any manner he should choose. Also the texts - fair enough if I'm reciprocal but when I'm not 'I'm draining the life out of him'.
I actually feel demoralised but his response to this - how is being lusted after by your husband demoralising.
Ugh it's starting to get to me.

Also reading your other thread with your 9 year old seeing the sexts how much does this need for sex spill over into family life - given his obsession with it.

Tell him tough shit, that’s life!

What is lesbian role play??? Serious question.

You're sexually incompatible. There's nothing wrong with him wanting sex and suggesting it. There is nothing wrong with a man desiring and suggesting sex with his wife.
And there's nothing wrong with you not always wanting it. You need to both meet halfway.

I really hate the fact that he's text you saying that he wants you in lingerie for sex tonight.

He can't just order what he would like from the menu. As others have said, you're not a fucking blow up doll or escort.

He really does sound repulsive. I couldn't be with someone like this, he's clueless and completely self absorbed. Your relationship sounds completely dysfunctional.

But chocolate she is meeting him half way. They’ve already had sex twice this week, which in my opinion with 3 young DC and the youngest only one year old, is amazing. OP is trying her best but his lack of respect for her when she says no is awful, trying to demean her and make her feel guilty as if only his needs count. Not exactly meeting her half way is he??

I don't think he is trying to demean her though. It would be a different story if it was the other way round and he was withholding sex, she would be told to leave and meet someone who can fulfil her needs etc.
I don't think he is the definition of what you call a sex pest.
I've got four children, three under 5 and a 9 month old and I wouldnt be satisfied with twice a week, but it's not really about how many times they have sex. It could be once or every night and he still might not be satisfied.

@Chocolatecoffeeaddict
Would you feel demeaned by your partner if he called you a bore and a nun for rejecting him following a weekend of sex?

She’s not withholding sex though and he’s still sulking and calling her names. If he genuinely doesn’t feel satisfied because their libidos don’t match then surely the mature response is to talk about the issues between them. Sadly I suspect this isn’t the case here and the OP is simply expected to please her husband at his every whim. His approach doesn’t seem as if he particularly cares what the OP wants or needs at all.

its not about mismatched sex drives its about control and how he feels he can simply text and she does what he wants