Friend turned nasty before wedding - advice needed!

[Charliepeace83]

One of my friends, 4 months before her wedding in Spain has turned on me and another good friend. We have been left emotional wrecks.

We’ve been good friends to her for 15 years and have scrapped her off the floor when her fiancé and her have argued (they break up every 6 months, she wanted a pre-nup and they only got engaged after she wouldn't let him in the house).

My friend and I are both laidback and kind. We’ve avoided any confrontation. The bride has continued to send manipulative aggressive, abusive messages one after the other (even though she told me not to contact her again which I respected) and to my work address! – the messages she sends are so angry but contain no facts or actual issues with my friend or I. My friend naively sent her a nice message saying she respected her and hoped she was ok - the response was more abuse.

My questions are:

• Has anyone experienced this from a ‘friend’ getting married?

• Do you think it's because she is unhappy?

- Have you ever decided to not attend a wedding due to this?

• What did you do? if anything!

Thanks :)

Do it Do it Do it

We are all behind you op. Send it!!

I’d say staying connected to her would be more fearful than making a break.

It is necessary to make a stand for your own dignity. Making a bold stroke can take courage and nerve, but you can do it. She may give you a verbal spanking, but so what? At this point you don’t need to listen to her anymore...just bs sound waves floating to the stratosphere. Water, duck, back...and move forward, don’t look back.

If I rightly understand, then, the reason you couldn't make the hen do is that the organisers left you out. So you get the blame and abuse because you weren't invited (or at least weren't invited to share the accommodation that went with the event). This is not a person with a particularly strong foothold on Planet Earth. How possible will it be to avoid her for ever after?

Its a shame they dont do "congrats on your impending divorce" cards. But then I am petty.

Anniegetyourgun - absolutely right. But this is the person who invited 40 women! Difficult to avoid her forever as we have many mutual friends. I think ,at events, we can just avoid each other. I just realise I have loads of great friends so it won't matter too much.

Thanks so much for everyones support. That has helped so much. I've never been in this position before. I'm saddened by it however as you get older you realize life is too short....

A very unhappy marriage for both of them :(

Block her. Boom. Done. We've all gone through hard times, but she seems spiteful and controlling and vindictive........ OP you re too kind and understanding. I say do not respond to her DO not fuel her fire in anyway, Just block her and disappear, and do not be in a hurry to let her back in. Do you need a friend like this, or was she just someone you were thrown together with super young?

has it gone OP

Have you sent it ? I would and block but I would also reword it .

Due to recent events I will no longer attending . Best wishes for the future. And block

Do you need to send it?