We are off on romantic hol. Suddenly declares no marriage...

[forthispurposeonly]

So been with man 15 months. We've talked a lot about marriage even down to where and who to invite!! A few months back I sent him a little quote about marriage and he wrote back "sooner than you think" !! He even asked ring size...

We are off to a very romantic location sans children in less than two weeks.

Bizarrely over the last few days he's announced how he doesn't want to get married any time soon!!!! But "never say never". He basically cant stop telling me how he DOESNT want to get married...

Wtaf.... I was full on hoping this was going to be proposal potential!!!

I'm going to try my best to forget about it and enjoy the lovely holiday but must admit to feeling deflated...

@forthispurposeonly Any update?!?!?!?

Place marking (I don’t care) for an update.

If currently own your own house and you're the main breadwinner by far (and I hate to sound so mercenary) is it really to your advantage to marry him? Are you thinking of having more children?

Just be sure you actually understand all the ramifications of marriage vis a vis your income and home ownership. You could lose a great deal if the marriage doesn't work out.

this ^

This waiting for Prince Charming to come along on a horse and propose to us is an incredibly old fashioned view of women in society. Have some self respect.

If you want to marry the man, ASK him. Quit waiting around like a damsel in distress.

Words fail me!

I can't wait for an update!

Can I be negative for a moment?

You say the discussion escalated to the point where you were in tears and he hugged you.

Can I put a question to you? If the person you loved most was in tears, obviously upset, and you could end it quite simply with one little sentence would you do it? Or would you sit there thinking 'I'll just wait a few more days until it's right'.

If I saw dh crying I can't imagine deliberately keeping him waiting for something when I could end it straight away. Op why are you accepting these games? It's not romantic to wait until the 'perfect' time if your partner is in turmoil over it, it's actually quite cruel. Is it normal behaviour for him to play games with you? Is this going to shape your relationship moving on? I would actually be rethinking the relationship.

He's totally doing it so you are surprised when he proposes on the holiday. Why go on about it so much otherwise?!

How on earth has he ignored the fact that OP picked up the parcel stating ring !

If my partner drilled it into me again and again that he didn't want to marry me to the point where I was in tears and then said "Surprise it was all a joke! Will you marry me!" I would tell him bollocks. It's like he expects you to be grateful or something.

@forthispurposeonly

Any updates OP?

I’d say he’s panicking that you think this holiday will involve a proposal and doesn’t want you to get upset when it doesn’t happen.

He could be trying to put you off the scent..: but it’s pretty obvious if that’s it.

Oh for goodness sake... I thought this was an actual update.