In the last 5 years I've had sex with my wife three times, once in the last three years. Initially this was down to our children who are now 5 and 8. Obviously the dc are at school and almost always are at school 8-6 as I drop them off and pick them up. My wife is a SAHM though she takes part in several groups and classes. After getting home I do cook all meals, washing up, laundry, ironing and cleaning most nights I do not finish before 10pm and 5 nights a week my wife goes out too classes. The other two one is date night where I cook us a three course meal and give her a massage the other is her pamper night. We have talked about the situation recently and I suggested she reduced her classes and she could go more at home, I also mentioned sex. Her response was that I was an abusive pervert.Really not sure how to proceed I don't want to think she's wrong but I'm struggling like this.