Became official he’s became ‘off’

[GFat32]

Hi all quick background-stbxh cheated and we broke up six months ago hiwever the marriage was over for two years

Started dating a guy around three months ago few hiccups with online dating apps at start but agreed that he would come off then focus on us see how that goes

Well last weekend he asked me to be his girlfriend he wanted to make things official. I said yes and we had a lovely night together and seen each other twice since. However his mood has been quite dry(ish) he admitted today that he has been grumpy this week and I asked him was it because we were officia was he having second thoughts etc he said no said he is just tired. But tbh his reaction has left me quite insecure now he also mentioned a few weeks ago about a family event that he might get a +1 for and if so would bring me it’s in a few weeks....but no mention of it again which is fine if he isn’t getting a +1 but I’m a bit annoyed he won’t acknowledge that.

Anyway I’ve been out of the start of gf/bf things for a long time...what is normal or not I feel so immature wondering constantly 🤔🤔

I had a friend who had fancied me for 6 years, since we met at school. We got together when we were 21 and he was so amazing I thought and he wanted to get married, have children, the whole shebang. This guy was my best friend and I trusted him more than I trusted anyone, ever. We were soul mates at school and always had a special connection. All the relationship was his idea and despite being worried we'd lose that I agreed as fancied him rotten too. Fast forward to 3 weeks later and he says it's not what he wanted after all. I was heartbroken. Absolutely devastated. Took me years to get over him because what we had was so amazingly fierce and passionate and based on years of being best friends and knowing each other inside out. His dad later said to me (years later) that my friend was in love with the idea of being in love. It made sense to me. He loved the chase, the fantasy of having someone he thought was perfect, but the reality was totally different and it scared him so he backed away rapidly. It boils down to them being emotionally retarded I'm afraid.

That is one way he described himself to me actually 🙄🙄