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Why is my boyfriends friend lying?

84 replies

Liley123 · 25/05/2018 21:28

Two weeks ago me and my boyfriend were drinking with his work friends (he started his new job two months ago) and his friend kept asking me what I do for my job, what sort of music I like and what I do in my spare time. My boyfriend was talking about what me and him do together and his friend, let’s call him bee, started to say “if I was your boyfriend” but got cut off by my boyfriend before he could finish his sentence. All night he was making me laugh and when I left I said by to everyone and when I was half way out the door he said “bye then liley” to which I replied “I said bye to everyone” he said “only to your boyfriend” so I said “bye bee” and he said “thank you, that’s better”. The next day I caught him staring at me through a fence then added him on Facebook the next day which he still hasn’t accepted.

A few days after I told my boyfriend that I caught him looking and he said I was probably other thinking and that he might have just been looking to see who was there. He said bee mentioned that I’d added him and asked him why I had.

I’ve just spoke to bee and he said “sorry I’m not being ignorant, I’ve just seen your friend request” which is obviously a lie. Why would he lie?

OP posts:
AlisonCHaynes · 26/05/2018 01:28

I really want to know the significance of the fence.

ScreamingValenta · 26/05/2018 01:49

his friend kept asking me what I do for my job, what sort of music I like and what I do in my spare time. My boyfriend was talking about what me and him do together and his friend, let’s call him bee, started to say “if I was your boyfriend” but got cut off

You've interpreted this as a sign he fancies you, and you're flattered.

All night he was making me laugh

You quite fancy him.

The next day I caught him staring at me through a fence

He's odd.

then added him on Facebook the next day which he still hasn’t accepted.

You've made a move, but he's not interested.

I’ve just spoke to bee and he said “sorry I’m not being ignorant, I’ve just seen your friend request” which is obviously a lie. Why would he lie?

Because he enjoyed mildly flirting with you, but hasn't the remotest interest in having a relationship with you, but is too nice/hasn't the courage to tell you this outright.

In short - he's just not that into you.

gingergenius · 26/05/2018 03:16

@Dadaist has it in a nutshell!

Whyarealltheusernamestaken · 26/05/2018 03:24

Whenever someone looks at me through a fence I add them as friend.. honest mistake :P

gingergenius · 26/05/2018 03:29

@Whyarealltheusernamestaken Grin

Anniegetyourgun · 26/05/2018 07:35

Why add him? Just... why? If you said he made a friend request to you that might make one tiny iota of sense. The other way round though... I regretfully conclude you're just an incontinent adder Confused

tiredandfallingasleep · 26/05/2018 07:42

Where was the fence? Why were you separated by a fence? How did you see him if there was fence in the way?!

I need more info re: fence.

BlondeB83 · 26/05/2018 07:42

Random thread. Bizarre to add him if you find him weird. Sounds like you fancy him.

JoyceDivision · 26/05/2018 07:46

Bee is a peeper?

As Mickey Flanagan said, you are the peep-ee, being spied on.

You are Bee Peeper's Peep-ee

Grin
FizzyGreenWater · 26/05/2018 07:55

Incontinent adder?

What's with all the wildlife refs! I don't even get it. Snake in the grass (the grass on the other side of the fence)?

FizzyGreenWater · 26/05/2018 07:56

OH adder as in person who adds (on FB). Right.

ArtBrut · 26/05/2018 08:37

I want to hear more about the fence, too. Are you all guards in a maximum security prison?

VogueVVague · 26/05/2018 09:02

He wants to marry you

LongWalkShortPlank · 26/05/2018 09:12

He was quite literally on the fence about it all Grin

blackeyes72 · 26/05/2018 09:15

It's half term... 😁 😈

QuentinSummers · 26/05/2018 09:18

I feel bad for your boyfriend. I don't think he is going to propose now

Puttingthefootdown · 26/05/2018 09:21

Is this reverse? Are you the BF

Paperdoll16 · 26/05/2018 09:39

Can I just say I got in last night from a really long day and had a quick read on MN before going to sleep.

The comments on this thread is enough to make anyone smile and even laugh out loud. The image of the eye through the fence was just hilarious, and the bee related jokes are pure genius!

But anyway, back on track.. op, this is truly odd. You have a bf and so what bees intentions were/are really shouldn't matter to you as you're not single. End of.

FizzyGreenWater · 26/05/2018 09:53

I think you should think a lot more deeply about all of this OP (not while stood by the fence though as that sounds like it translates as a direct come-on in your neck of the woods) and then post a bit more.

SickofPeterRabbit · 26/05/2018 09:55

...caught him staring at me through a fence so I added him on Facebook

Uhuh, naturally.......🐝🐝🐝

SickofPeterRabbit · 26/05/2018 09:56

OP wants a taste of his Honey of course 🍯

metalmum15 · 26/05/2018 10:29

This is the funniest thing I've read all morning. Op, it's quite clear you fancy him and you're trying to suss out whether he fancies you too. My opinion is, he doesn't, he's a young lad who probably likes to flirt with girls who are already taken so he doesn't have to actually put in any more effort than necessary. You were just a convenient distraction for the evening and now he's hoping you haven't got the wrong end of the stick because you want to be his 'friend'. Hope this helps.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 26/05/2018 10:33

This thread just keeps giving. So funny.

Kualabear · 26/05/2018 10:37

Don't you have any GCSE revision to be getting on with?

cistersofterfy · 26/05/2018 10:48

That making you say goodbye thing sounds really creepy and controlling. Why would you want to be friends with him?!

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