Is any one dating a dwarf?

[Moolimoo]

Ok, here’s my dilemma, I am widowed and I have 4 kids. I recently started dating a colleague, everything is great, when we are alone everything is perfect. The thing is he’s a dwarf. He’s 4’6” and I’m a foot taller. Wherever we go people stare and it makes me really uncomfortable. Will I be able to get over this? Has anyone else had a similar experience?

@dingit lol

Listen to Warwick Davies on Desert Island Discs. He is amazing.

Never heard of Peter Dinklage, cool name, cool man !
Warwick Davis seems like a lovely man.
OP, if he's the one for you, you'll end up having such a great time, that it really won't matter anymore. To be honest, he's really not that small.

Life is short (no pun intended!) and happiness is such a precious gift - please don't let what other people may be thinking worry you or influence your life choices. One of the greatest things I taught myself is to not give a flying fk what others think of me, my life or my choices.

If the doubt is planted by others, and not yourself, then dismiss it and enjoy yourself!

I just wanted to say that I also like Peter Dinklage. Peter, if you're reading this, PM me!

There is a fantastic french film I watched on tv a while ago called “ up for love” and he is 4ft something and she is tall and he seduces her. She is really anxious what her family will think of him. It’s very sweet and funny. If you can find it, I highly reccomend you watch it.

@ChinkChink

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Maybe I’m just looking for excuses not have a new relationship, I haven’t been widowed long! He’s fab, I love him, sex is great, he’s good with my kids, he’s got a good job, he’s kind and caring and responsible, literally perfect. Just maybe I’m looking to sabotage my own happiness. Probably a whole new thread there! Thanks guys

@anewme2018 thank you!

My DH is exactly the same height as me at 5'6". But if he were to sadly pass, and Peter Dinklage's DW were also to terribly sadly pass, then he and I would so totally find solace in eachother's arms.

True relationships are not about what other people think. When people point stare or comment do not dare be embarrassed - that validates their bigotry. Lift your chin and ignore them, or get angry and confront them.

Does he know it bothers you?

What hurts you more...

1. People staring and you feeling awkward but being with someone you like

1. Ending the relationship and not having him around but feeling more socially acceptable?

If 1 then go for it. If 2 do him a favour and end it.

Sounds like a small problem in the scheme of things.

@ChinkChink

I'm only 5 foot.

But I act like I'm 5.

Sorry I got that the wrong way around 🙈

DP has a facial thing that makes people stare. He's blind in one eye and very lopsided. I genuinely don't even notice anymore.

Let the love grow and the insecurities will fade away into near-nothingness.

That Up For Love film looks good. He's a regular size bloke in RL, not sure how I feel about that

How long have you been widowed op?

4 months 😳

""a test for your ego''. Good point vitology. I hate that a partner sort of reflects your value as a mate it's part of the reason i've remained single for a decade i think. I cannot accept my low value as a mate! i prefer the indeterminate value of being single. there is nobody ELSE to indirectly label your value as a mate. My ego cannot cope with the unattractive short PLUMP men who have been the only ones who've shown any real focused interest in me.

young, good looking people who date other good looking people never get their ego tested.

@notlinkedin you are right. The thing is, we get so much attention because I am errrr I don’t know how to put it without sounding awful, I am urgh ....... I’m very attractive. Now I sound like a dick. Lol.

You've been widowed four months and you're dating already, and he's met the kids?

Blimey.

The funeral baked meats doth coldly furnish forth the marriage tables

I'm very ordinary and I'd still struggle with dating a man of 4'6''
It's so UNUSUAL. There are many very ordinary men out there. Being 4'6'' is not ordinary. That is why people stare. You sound a bit fond of yourself imagining that they're staring MORE because you're so attractive.

I think attractive people need to worry LESS what other people think.