I'm at my wits end & want other peoples views please.
My DH & I sold our house last year & purchased a bigger one with an annex for my elderly mum to move into to. It was all good throughout winter & she loved it. Now that spring has come, my mum wanted to plant some flowers in the garden & make it pretty... here is where my problem has started. My husband has always done all the gardening at our old house & always kept it lovely, but he is laying down the law to my mum on what she can & cant do. No plastic pots, no ornaments, no flowers out the front etc. He is now moaning that the few flowers he has allowed her to plant are not colour co-ordinating. He has told her that he will put stuff in the bin if he doesn't like it or he just picks things up and moves it to where he can't see it in the garden. I feel so upset for my mum, but he won't have any of it. I always knew he had a bit of OCD, but never realised how bad it was in the garden (because I have never helped to do any gardening, so never really paid too much attention). I know my mum is getting upset about all of this & I think she regrets moving in with us. I've tried talking to him, but he says its his garden, and wants it his way. (Unfortunately is is not the sort of garden that you can separate into each others parts because of the layout). We've been married 35 years, but I can feel this might end up splitting us up. My mums last few years were meant to be a nice place to live, but now he's turned into a dictator. I would appreciate anyone's view on how I handle this.