My Dh has an incurable illness and also is quite horrible and difficult to live with, this has been going on for years now and just getting worse. He is totally self centred and makes everything about him, and is also incredibly negative about everything in life / our lives. He was like this before he got ill and obviously having this illness is just horrible for him but he takes it out on me and our teenage DC's. Just one example today. He decided to mow the lawn and I knew he would find it very tiring. I said we would do it together in stages so she he got a bit tired he could rest a d I would take over. He refused this and did it all himself even though I offered again a couple of times. Afterwards he stormed into the house shouting, saying he'd had enough of everything and was exhausted from mowing the lawn. I said he should have taken me up on my offer but he just pushed past me and stamped upstairs to bed, still shouting. A bit later I was in the phone to my friend, and I could hear him up again, shouting at my youngest Dc (age 18). This sort if thing happens A LOT and it makes me so stressed and miserable, I hate being at home with him and he is an utter misery guts. I know he is ill and I do so much for him but nothing is appreciated. I've read articles and seen programmes about people with the same illness and some of the things they do to cope with it, including trying positive thinking, but he does nothing of this. I feel completely trapped, I hate our relationship. Does a gone have any advice?