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He’s got someone else pregnant

87 replies

lindsayville · 07/05/2018 13:49

So 7 months in to something I thought was really special my dp has confessed to me he slept with someone else and she’s now pregnant. I’m devastated he thinks we can fix it. My gut is saying it’s better to walk now if he can hurt me this much so early in..what’s the mn view?

OP posts:
QueenAravisOfArchenland · 07/05/2018 13:49

Walk. Now. This will only get worse.

FlatTopVera · 07/05/2018 13:50

Walk. In fact, run.

jacobsgirl · 07/05/2018 13:50

Defos leave if you have no financial attachment or anything legal you're in the best position to walk

I know it will be hard but you deserve far better

Good luck and hugs

Mannix · 07/05/2018 13:51

Save yourself a lot of pain and leave now. You've only invested 7 months, he couldn't stay faithful even for that long, and this can only get worse.

SleepFreeZone · 07/05/2018 13:52

Oh my god leave. You will always hate the mother and the child.

Smeddum · 07/05/2018 13:52

Run. It will hurt but nowhere near as much as a life with this man. What a dick.

TokenGinger · 07/05/2018 13:52

Walk.

I met somebody 3 years ago. Two months in, he told me somebody he slept with a month before me was pregnant and she didn’t know if it was his or not. For the next six months, it was torture. Constantly wondering if it was his, how our relationship would change if it was, how he’d feel about her seeing her give birth to his potentially first child if he was present, how they’d always have something we didn’t. It was a huge threat for me. We eventually separated for different reasons and the baby wasn’t his, but I would never, ever put myself through that again.

And that’s without the cheating. The fact he’s cheated so soon in to a new relationship (not that it’s ever right, but if you’d been together 10 years with kids you might fight for it) shows how little he thinks of what you have.

Angelf1sh · 07/05/2018 13:53

Get as far away from him as you possibly can before he gets you pregnant to. I can’t believe you actually need to ask that tbh.

SoleBizzz · 07/05/2018 13:53

Dump him. Too much hurt and drama.

Caselgarcia · 07/05/2018 13:53

So he has already cheated in the 7 months you have been together? You would be mad to stay with him.

DioneTheDiabolist · 07/05/2018 13:53

You thought it was something really special. It wasn't. Time to walk away OP.

OlennasWimple · 07/05/2018 13:54

Why on earth would you stay in this relationship?

Tell him that you are ending it so that he can focus on being a father to his soon-to-be-here child and because he's a cheating toe-rag

AmazingPostVoices · 07/05/2018 13:54

He can fix it?

Confused

How? Is he expecting you to play step mum to his ow’s baby during visitations?

Leave.

expatinscotland · 07/05/2018 13:54

7 months?! He's a shite boyfriend. NO, there is NO way to fix this. He can't have his cake and eat it, too. Please have some self-respect. Get rid of this low-rent shagabout right now.

84CharingCrossRoad · 07/05/2018 13:57

I would say not only leave him but get an STD check too....

bellanotte22 · 07/05/2018 14:06

Get out now. What a dick!

Find someone who is worth your effort.

Mousefunky · 07/05/2018 14:08

I second getting a STI check. Leave him pronto.

BastardGoDarkly · 07/05/2018 14:10

Fuck me op. Run and don't look back.

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 07/05/2018 14:10

Run. Via the gum clinic.

Jozxyqk · 07/05/2018 14:13

He can fix it by being a decent father to the child.
You can fix it by retaining your self respect & ending things with him, immediately. And YY to the STI check. What a scumbag.

I'm so sorry. Flowers

Dobbythesockelf · 07/05/2018 14:13

He couldn't be faithful for 7 months. Leave now and don't look back.

Figgygal · 07/05/2018 14:14

No chance would i stick around and neither should you

Aw12345 · 07/05/2018 14:16

Run for the hills. Once unfaithful, always unfaithful.

LuluJakey1 · 07/05/2018 14:22

Run and don't ever look back.

IRefuseToAgree · 07/05/2018 14:22

Leave. At least it’s happened now and not later.

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