Have I been too honest or would you be ok receiving a text like this?

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When I told someone I've been seeing he gives me butterflies. Not sure now if that's a comment to cause him running for the hills?! Obviously had no reply to my text earlier saying that!

To put into context, FWB that I've been seeing for a few months on and off (complicated etc, but pretty good together).

Just googled and apparently butterflies can mean falling in love! Definitely didn't want to say that

What did you mean? I’d have interpreted it as excitement/pleasure/early stages of love. I do think it’s not an appropriate thing to say to a fwb, it’s definitely too relationship-y for a fwb. Might have scared him off, yes.

Oh bugger. I only meant that I fancied him muchly!

To me if I said that I would feel in the first flushes of what I felt like might be falling in love. If you said it to a FWB I would interpret that as more than just occasional sex and hanging out. So it either goes a few ways: he chooses not to acknowledge it, that means he doesn't want it to go any deeper than it is, or he feeds off it and goes with it, meaning he might be interested in more too.

If he chooses not to reciprocate or ignore, you then need to decide if it is worth the risk of carrying on and falling deeply in love with someone who may never feel the same.

If he does, it could be the start of a loving beautiful relationship.

Butterflies: excitement. Either way you know you are living ;)

You should have been more clear. Minge twinge or fanny gallops. Maybe a follow up text saying .....down below?

Yeah that sounds like an ‘I’m falling for you’ confession to me. Any retraction won’t sound genuine now either!

I said he gives me butterflies and gallops in the actual message. God. I wish I could retract the first bit now, as it's obviously open to misinterpretation!

He might not realise you meant fanny gallops. He might have thought you meant that he sent your heart racing!

Don't retract it. Own it. If he backs away, let him. YOU were honest.

At least you didn't tell him he looked like a burst mattress.

I will own it, I was honest. He can do what he likes with it....will brace for an abrupt ending though. I hope he would have realised the gallops were fanny gallops as we were chatting about it earlier.

Burst mattress Fizzy?

Say your phone autocorrected and you meant moths, because you were worried things were getting mouldy?

Nice one waterspider!

I don't have much advice as I am incapable of playing it cool. It makes me sad and frustrated that there are so many rules surrounding dating that we can't tell someone how we feel. Meh. Good luck OP, hope he replies.

Cringe at “fanny gallops” 🤢

I hope he would have realised the gallops were fanny gallops as we were chatting about it earlier

I honestly thought it was just a MN phrase on account of never having heard it anywhere else!

My grandmother used to say 'the gallops' instead of diarrhea, which might balance out the butterfly bit?

Och, away you lot. If you get butterflies on seeing someone, it means that you fancy them, and get excited when they're around. Doesn't have to be about love at all!
Don't worry, OP. What you said was pretty mild, and it could have been a lot worse/more soppy!

If it makes you feel better it is exactly the sort of thing i would have sent in those early stages of a fling when its all exciting etc.
If he is really interested he wont just ignore it!

If my FWB sent me a text like that it would probably be the end of our arrangement. That to me indicates your feelings are more than a FWB set up

What in god's name is 'fanny gallops'? 😮

Fanny gallops is a phrase I've only heard on MN which I interpret as the op has the female version of a hard-on, the galloping of the fanjo area.

Not the nicest of phrases op.

You should have told him he gives you fizzy knickers and then he may have understood

The gallops means the shits.
If he's just a fwb why are you sharing your feelings with him?

God, this reminds me of my first year of uni - the message amongst my fellow female students was to never ever tell the guy you’re having sex with that you have any emotions relating to it whatsoever, or they’d run a mile. It was really depressing.

If you want to / are able to have sex with someone repeatedly without having any sort of feelings about it, great. If you are feeling something, you should bloody well say so, IMO. Sex often leads to emotion. That’s okay.

But that’s the thing with fwb, there aren’t supposed to be any feelings above friendship. It sounds like you want more than what he’s currently offering (which is of course fine to say) and his radio silence suggests he doesn’t want to offer more (which is also fine).

it’s possible he’ll not reply to you again, more likely that he’ll just ignore it and then act normally after a week or two. The more important question is what do you want now? It seems like you really do like him and if that’s true, continuing as fwb will probably end up hurting you. You should think seriously about how you feel before you just carry on as normal.