Why does my child's father change my baby clothes when has him?

[Lucoxox]

Hi all,

So my DS is 13 weeks old I am not with the dad anymore and everytime he has our son at his house with his parents they change him out of his clothes everytime and dress them in their own clothes they brought, I see it on fb I will dress him in nice jeans and top then I will find pictures of my DS in their own baby clothes.. then when he brings DS home hes back in the clothes i dressed him in, anyone had this problem before? Think it's to spite me cause im not on good terms with him or his parents.. I find changing the clothes really weird behaviour!

I would imagine it's just because they want to feel like he's their child too, that they are making decisions about things like what he can wear when he's with them and dress him in the outfits they have chosen.
In the gentlest possible sense, you are going to have to get used to it. It must be very difficult when he is so small, and you are his mother and want to keep him safe and comfortable, but he is always going to have contact with his father and things will be different at his father's house and you can't control that. At least it sounds as if his dad does love him and want to fuss over him and keep him safe and comfortable too. Your son is lucky to have two parents looking out for him.

Do you think they worry his clothes you put him in will get dirty during the day and want to return baby to you pristine, clean and tidy ?

Don't worry op I am with you on this one must just be our arse exs I get where you are going with it completely trust me!

OP, you post frequently about how you “need to heal”. Why then, have you not voiced

Posted too soon.

Why then, have you not blocked your ex and his family on FB? You are actively looking for reasons to be pissed off by him.

Babygros over jeans any day at that age, for me. And maybe they just really don’t like the clothes you put in him and don’t want anyone thinking they chose them when they post photos of him.

Jeans are hardly the most comfortable things for a small baby. Nothing with a waistband is ideal at such a young age.
Maybe they are just thinking of his comfort. In any case, it's nothing to get upset about.