How to seduce an uptight Englishman - desperate for advice please

[helenaxxx]

I really want to know, how to initiate romance with a shy Englishman. I’m dating a really great man, I adore him but we seen to be stuck in friends zone. He’s friendly and confident, but romantically very shy, so whilst being the perfect and kindest English gentleman he hasn’t ever done anything to suggest he’d like something more. He sends lovely texts and initiates dates, but they are always a walk, lunch or cinema ended with a kiss on the cheek. Not a single compliment on my appearance or even a touch on the arm.
Been on so many dates and now and I’ve started to get emotionally involved and feeling pretty desperate just for hug. I’m not asking for a night of passion, would just love to hold hands.
The situation feels strange to me, but then I’ve never dated an English man, I’m used to very direct and pushy foreign men who have always made the moves. I realise I’m also shy and rubbish at making the moves. But I’ve got to muster up the courage and do it gracefully.
I know some of you ladies out there know how to make the moves on a slightly uptight Englishman. I’d really love some advice.
Or are you a shy Englishman, what should I do?

How does a woman tell a man she likes him in a no pressure charming way?
How does a woman gracefully initiate that first physical contact?
Help !!
There’s been no physical imtimacy and also no intimate chit chat, eg about us getting together, how we are feeling or past relationships etc. I need to initiate this somehow and I want to tell him how much I like him, that I’d like to be more than friends, if he did too, no pressure etc, but it’s like crossing a line. It just feels like it would be impolite. I always wimp out, never find the right moment to even hint at this. I don’t even know if he’s ever had a girlfriend. Though conversation flows freely and he just feels really kind to me.
He won’t invite me out to dinner. Is this a sign he’s not ready to jump into romance? Or could it be he’s just unconfident.

I was thinking I need to orchestrate cooking for him at his house, that way he wouldn’t be driving. I’m an excellent cook and I suspect he has a real weakness for yummy home cooked food, then we could share a bottle of wine, which might give me some Dutch courage to just take the lead and open up a bit and see if he then reciprocates.
Next date will be a brief one, just coffee this weekend as it’s rainy and he has visitors.

Wear heels to the cinema 'date'. Wobble alluringly!

(I can only think that they were designed to create an obvious excuse for physical intimacy.)

I have been in long term relationships with two Australians, two Americans, a South African, a South American, a Frenchman, a Spaniard, two Scandinavians and several Brits (Scots and Englishmen).

When they were interested in the relationship progressing onto a physical level, they demonstrated it, more or less quickly and more or less overtly, depending more on their personalities than on their cultural backgrounds.

You may need to ask him outright whether he is interested in you romantically?

Good Luck!

PS: I've never had an Asian or Oriental man but it is never too late, me thinks.

You're both adults. Why dont you just tell him how you feel and see how he responds?

Oh is there any need for that at teatime!

Just say 'Where do you think we're going with this?'

Katchit is apparently turning himself on.

I've nominated it for the Bad Sex Writing award.

Geez Katshit, that was awful. I’ll be turned off for the rest of my life after reading that.

D-

Is that a joke?

😂

I think men like this do exist. I dated one who had never had a gf before and just was terrified of making a move and getting it wrong. He’s still diffident but while he and I didn’t last he’s now very happily married.

I did - scary film (god excuse for hand holding

• lots of wine back at his listening to music...

so so SOOOOOO much wrong with katchit's post there, dearie me!

#badsexwriting

I think the correct spelling is "cat shit".

lock his snake inside your cave* ?!!😂😂😂😂😂

Jesus that's worse than the free shitty novels on Amazon.

katshit Is that you, E L James??