There have been a few threads on here recently where the idea or suggestion of "tricking" a guy into conceiving (by tampering with contraception etc) has come up. The overwhelming response to this is always an emphatic NO, often expressed in very strong language. I understand this of course.
But here's the thing. I know for a fact (she told me) that my mother tricked my father in to conceiving me. They had an appalling relationship and god knows what she was thinking, but she wanted one more child and she knew my father didn't.
They split up when I was young and my father wasn't very involved, but he supported us financially and never treated me any differently to my siblings. As an adult we aren't close in a classic father-daughter way, but I am glad he is in my life and I think he would say the same. I have no idea if he knows the circumstances around my conception or if he genuinely thinks it was an accident.
I don't know why I'm posting this really, I guess it just makes me feel odd when posters are so vehemently opposed to deceiving someone about conception. As I said, I do get it, and I wouldn't recommend anyone to do it.... but.