46 year old woman .....dating 24 year old guy

[Blondiegirl2]

What would you make of this? I've just found out, that my friend is dating a guy younger than her own son. She's 46. He's 24.

I do know it's none of my business (of course), but I'm wondering what a woman of 46 would see in a 24 year old (apart from the sex)?

I'm the same age as her, and my son is a similar age to the boyfriend, so it all seems a bit yukky to me.

I started seeing a 24 year old when I was 35. Started as fun but he’s still here almost 4 years later and is the best, most self-aware, kind, funny and caring man I have ever been with.

He’s mature for his age and I’m not at all so it works really well! I get that an 11 year gap is not the same as a 22 year one but the principle is the same.

If you can’t say anything nice to her about it then don’t say anything at all.

I'm thinking of winding down soon, not starting something new

Well that makes perfect sense, you yourself are planning early retirement or whatever and you don't think you'd have anything in common with someone in their 20s.

But why disgust, why ewwww?

And it doesn't take much imagination to realise that there are lots of people in their 40s who have no intention of winding down for decades yet, who still enjoy socialising and live music for example, and may find common ground with someone younger.

He is well into adulthood

It wouldn't be for me, but I really would not care. I have my own life to deal with.

Is he French by any chance?

a bit ew is not But why disgust, why ewwww? it's a 'not my scene' I wouldn't like it, but feel free to take what you like from my comments

I'm in my 50s. I'd not expect a man in his early/mid twenties to be good enough in bed to satisfy me. Stuff I like now I hadn't even tried at that age.

My current boyfriend is in his 60s - he's still more than up for it & would give a younger man a run for his money in the bedroom

Alabama, well the dictionary definition of 'ew' is that it implies disgust, so I'm not taking what I like from your comments, I'm taking them as you intended.

PussGirl a friend of mine in her late 40s went through a phase of dating men in their 20s. She said they made up for lack of skill with energy, stamina and repeat performances. Whatever, I say. Wouldn't be for me to put up with hrs of clumsey fiddling, or even hrs of piv, I'd be tired and irritable from it

My dh is 7 years younger than me. My rule is that if I am old enough to have given birth to them, I don't think of them as sexual partners, even fantasy ones. It just makes me shudder to consider it. Others think differently and as long as someone is an adult, they can be considered.
I'm in my fifties.

Alabama, well the dictionary definition of 'ew' is that it implies disgust, so I'm not taking what I like from your comments, I'm taking them as you intended

RainyApril whatever

MiniThe Minx absolutely

Lack of skill would turn me right off! Nothing beats a man with experience IMO I get plenty of repeat performances anyway, even if he doesn't

Yes he's the same age potentially as her child but that only makes it gross if you extrapolate from that some weird incest by proxy, that she or he is imagining the other is actually the son or mom.
I also see it would be weird if she's known him since he was little but that doesn't seen to be the case.

I wouldn't make this assumption lightly so why else is it gross?

I can understand why it might be a bit cringe for any supposed child, but outside of that, its two adults having probably great sex and perfectly capable of talking about the news, movies, music, interests and hobbies

I don't see the big deal to be honest. Theyre both fully fledged adults.

I remember seeing a man who looked about 30 holding hands with a lady of about 70. I don't know why but it made feel a bit teary and I got a bit of a lump in my throat.

Watch the movie @Film stars don't die in Liverpool. She - films at was in her fifties and he was 28. Really well done and they cared for each other. She also got on really well with his parents!

My boyfriend/partner (we've been together over two years) is technically young enough to be my grandson. (56/22). And it's the best relationship I've ever had. We can talk about anything. He is very clever and incredibly witty. And the kindest, most thoughtful person I've ever met. And it's true we don't have shared experiences, but he is very interested to learn about things and in a way that makes life more interesting. I never feel as though I'm with someone less mature than me. So you really can't judge what someone is like based on their age alone.

So I for one don't give a stuff if anyone thinks it's yukky (or maybe as I have no children I'm exempt??) and I hope your friend doesn't either. And if you want to know why she chose to be with him why not just ask her. She is supposed to be your friend after all.

Don't see anything wrong with it, they're both consenting adults.
Each to their own.

crispbutty to clarify I meant he is not her son

Hmm don't think I've ever seen a 40 plus man with a 20 something woman other than Donald trump and Stormy Daniels

I’m 46 and I’m dating a 24 year old. I have people telling me he’s just a kid what are you doing. But I don’t care what they think. I have been through enough abusive relationships. Guys being controlling, disrespectful, pushy, mean, rude. Too much. He does none of that. We enjoy each other’s company. We make each other laugh. I wish I were younger because I think we could have had something more but I don’t see us getting married and spending years together. I have my own kids. Someday he will want his own. But right now. We like hanging out together.

Personally I like having similar cultural reference points so ideally up to 8 years older or younger but I guess it depends on the individuals concerned and maturity levels too

@RainyApril. A wrinkly body at 40something? only someone in really bad shape! I'm 43 and no wrinkles to speak of thanks!

It would send me into a spin of worrying about my lines and wrinkles but maybe that's me being insecure. I'd spend the whole time thinking he MUST want someone his own age.
So it wouldn't be fun, just anxiety inducing!

Had one such approach once...he thought i was younger than I am by a way and was very hot but I politely declined. He wasn't put off when I told him my actual age. I was flattered but perplexed. Wasn't single anyway but even if i had been I would have said no.

Meh..so what. Dating threads and Relationships board is choc full of women completely messed about by men in their 40s-50s. Many of whom clearly just want sex or have several women on the go at once..but omitted to tell the woman they're "with".

Live and let live seems about right.

My FIL was 17 years older than my MIL; theirs was a long and happy marriage, embarked on when she was in her twenties.

Afraid I totally fail to see the eww factor.

Only 3 years between me and dh, but we're from different countries so the cultural reference thing was never going to apply.

My parents are exactly the same age, but from different social classes: again, quite a gap as far as cultural references go.